me and my X broke up 4 years ago,then i had i BF who is my current BF.
when we broke up i didn't know the reason,my X didn't tell me y he wanted to give up on me. and so i lived happy 4 years with my current.
a day before i called my X,and before that we never talked,when i called him the conversation was normal and somehow friendly. And i asked him y he left me. he explaind to me y was that. and honestly from time to time i used to wonder about it and wanted to know.
so i told my current and he was mad and ungry,and wanted to break up with me.
i love him so much and we were planing for our future.
what do u think i should do???
2006-09-10 22:05:41 · 15 answers · asked by Musty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in fact it was just curiousity. And i wasn't intending to have anything else.
as i mentioned before,i'm very happy with my current BF. my X hurt me alote. but it's been 4 years that we broke up and so there's nothing left to look behind for. it was just the question that i always wanted to know its answer.
2006-09-10 22:36:11 · update #1
Hi Kicks
I think you're all over the place. Settle down, you've got a nice BF now, so screw the curiosity and concentrate on what's impt.
What went wrong between you and your ex is not gonna matter now right? You were obviously happy with your Now. So let sleeping dogs lie, lest curiosity kills the cat. Hint hint.
Ok, back to your problem. I guess your current is all confused. How you can be in love with him and still go back on things that happened with your ex 4 yrs ago. Probably emotional insecurity or a sense of betrayal. Whatever the case, you shld think about how to make him feel special.
Flowers, home cooked meal, whatever works. Good luck!
2006-09-10 22:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to live in the here and now.You say you have had 4 years with your current boyfreind I dont know why you were reminiscing over your EX boyfreind,Your current boyfreind has every right to be mad because you betrayed his trust by calling your ex.I mean what good can come of it.If your planning a future with one guy it makes sense that you dont call other men.Freinds fine but chat up the ex?EXs can be freinds but if you wanted to talk to him maybe you should of told your boyfreind What would you think If I called so and so.But I dont think you wanted to be freinds, the way it sounds you were thinking about what could of been!I think you should apoligize remind him It was only a phone call and no matter what he says even if he says its over stay away from other men for a month.Men tend to forgive when they see you alone.goodluck.
2006-09-10 22:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to evaluate why all the sudden you decided to ask your ex for an explanation about why he broke up with you. Were you simply curious or is it something else?
As for you current bf, you may have to let him cool off for a little bit and then try talking it out with him. If your relationship with him is meant to last, y'all will eventually work through this.
2006-09-10 22:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by txsunflower81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the present is really imp.. convince him.. tell him that u r sorry... i don't think what u did was such a big issue to breakup.. u were honest and told him... so just go to him and make him feel comfortable...
and honey.. being too honest is a dangerous thing.. even i face allot of situation like these with my bf.. so try to avoid things which may cause pain to ur loved once and take care..
hope u both will be fine soon
god bless..
2006-09-10 22:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick one, sounds like you picked the ex which is a predictable but bad move, never look back when you leave a relationship.
But, I guess if you like ex's, now you have 2 to like.
Next bf, be true to him and don't stress on the ex.
2006-09-10 22:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your current boyfriend you should stop thinking about what happened in your relationship with your ex bf....better apologize and ask for forgiveness and promise him that you'll stop thinking about the past...
2006-09-10 22:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to reason with him, he shouldnt be upset if it was just that innocent, he should be happy you are secure enough to share that with him. Sounds like a jealousy issue if you ask me. If he remains pissy i wouldnt stand for it, theres nothing you did that was wrong.
2006-09-10 22:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by ash147 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the past behind, bury the hatchet and win back your current boyfriend before he feels totally bad of how you've been hooked still with your ex
2006-09-10 22:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by leelee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and stand on your own two feet!! You can not have a successful relationship with anyone until you learn to take care of yourself first!
2006-09-10 22:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make your choice based on who really treats you right and makes you happy
2006-09-10 22:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~ Stormy Weather~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋