My ex has cheated on me, lied to me, Humiliated and embarrsed me. Always smokes weed or drinks. Im 23 smart, funny and good looking enough I also have other really nice hot guys who want to take me out . But nothing compares to him and i keep coming back for more, yeah i love him but how much will i let myself go before I loose all my self respect? I know he loves me to. But hell never change only lie. I know I have to cut him out of my life but if I do, I dont know who il even be nemore. What should I do?
2006-09-10 21:44:58 · 18 answers · asked by kathycracksit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This question is probably directed at females. What is it about being attracted to bad boys instead of nice gentlemen?
2006-09-10 21:48:50 · update #1
You said he's cheated on you, lied to you, humiliated and embarassed you. Where's the respect. And are you waiting for some disease to come around. He may love you, but not enough to not be selfish and think of your feelings. You just said or or less that you could do better, so why don't you. It doesn't sound like he's such a good catch. You need to let go and just get on with your life. You are too young to waste it on this type of a relationship. From what you said it sound like you realize this also. It's hard just to walk away when you think you love somebody and maybe it'll all just go away and change. But, I'd just let go and try to get on with your life, and if he decides to change. I'd really take a good look and make sure before going back to him. Besides, you may by then have found something more stable and not want to go back. Take care of yourself, because he, from the way it sound is definitely taking care of himself and his needs, whatever they are. Good luck. Kathy
2006-09-10 21:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by one_sahara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about your future. Do you want to have kids with this man? Is he the kind of father your future children deserve? Is he the type of husband you can create a life with? If the answer is no, then you have to respect yourself enough to move on. The more time that passes the more excuses you will make to stay. You need to be strong and remember how important YOUR happiness is... Love is only real love when it's returned. If this man disrespects you as you described, then he doesn't love you. It sounds like he is immature and selfish. Move on and give him some space and time to grow up, you never know what might happen later on down the road. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 04:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by lnfinitelylnteresting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look there no bad boys just asswhoes! he's just gonna keep doing what it is that he dose. If you can't get what you want from him he's useless. I'm a Dude so listen to me you sound like a really nice person and that's good. But apparently he doesn't want to see that. So if you keep going back it will make you think that you are weak. Or that you are not desirable. Or you have no worth. You are not weak. You are worth something. you are just too codependent and apparently like the abuse. Try to find someone who has some of the same interests as you. Or find a way to keep yourself occupied until he gives into what you want. Or simply cut him off
2006-09-11 04:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by durr_tee_durr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey thats why eve was attracted to the apple, there is just something eternally attractive about the forbidden fruit... but in reality many of us women have had our fill of the bad boys and their continuing breaking of our hearts, we grow up and realise that even though we think the bad boy may say he loves us if he trully cared he would make an honest effort to actually change, with you I dont think he will change so you have got to wise up and move on, yeah the good guy may not give you the forbidden buzz that the bad boy does but if you want to be genuinely happy you gotta go for the good reliable boys who wont dissapoint you...
2006-09-11 05:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by darthmawler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what you mean, I'm also a sucker for a bad boy. BUT actually you've answered your own question....you know you're losing yourself if you stay....and in time this will also not be attractive to him and he might go....get out and make it a journey to find yourself again...it's hard I know but definately worth it!!
Honesty is really one of the most important aspects of any relationship as it directly affects trust between you two...I know a bad boy has something....but in the long run that fades and you'll only be left with the nasty stuff
GO GIRL!!
2006-09-11 04:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Issabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason that no body can explain. Women just seem to be attracted to Bad Boys. I think it is part of wanting to live on the wild side. But in the end you really do need to find some one who is good, loving and will care for you as much as you care for them,
2006-09-11 04:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let this guy go. If he really loved you, he would treat you with respect. If he lies to you frequently and has cheated on you how can you trust him? If there is no trust, there is no relationship. You should give one of those really nice hot guys that you mentioned a chance. This guy doesn't deserve you.
2006-09-11 04:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by txsunflower81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out with the other guys. Know what you want from a relationship and don't settle for less. Your ex has no respect for you or himself.
You deserve the best and sticking around with a loser will make you a loser in the end.
2006-09-11 04:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex for a reason. Stay away. Go out with those hot guys and see if they treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If you don't like one, go out with another. There's only pain and embarrassment with your ex. You're an adult. Act like one. Why get burnt again? Stay away. Life is too short to be treated like that.
Good luck!
2006-09-11 04:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desires and beauty are all short lived and You are 23 the right age for marriage. Get rid of all your boyfriends and get married and you will have a peaceful life.
2006-09-11 04:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋