I went to church yesterday (I attend a very large church), which is why I rarely see the same person twice. I sat down and a lady I never met before came and sat beside me - and the service went on as usual. At the end of it, the pastor asked if anyone wanted prayer for anything. I remained seated, as I didn't feel the need to go forward for anything (plus I'm too private anyway). The lady next to me said, "I saw you scracth your leg earlier, why don't you go forward, as he mentioned he wanted to pray for skin conditions earlier in the meeting". I said, "No, it's just because I shaved my legs last night and I just get itchy sometimes and it's not a condition". She still couldn't accept my answer and insisted I went up for prayer. I just said I was 'ok' and left it at that. I knew she didn't like it but too bad.
I have never heard of anything like it in my life. Why on earth should she observe me scratching my legs and have the cheek to tell me what to do?
2006-09-10 21:00:14 · 36 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Don't let yourself be so bothered by such a small inconvenience. Simply put, she was rude, sanctimonious and high minded. Unfortunately many church goers consider themselves above others and don't realize how ridiculous there are. Mind you I am not putting down religion...I am religious myself, but I feel that the roles of Christians are to try and make themselves a better person rather than going around criticizing and judging others. In my opinion you handled the situation with dignity and taste. I would like to share my personal quote with you. "Whenever things are not going your way, use it as an opportunity to show how much class you have.
2006-09-10 21:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most prescriptions are by comparison, rather than analysis of such comparisons, coupled with logical reasoning.
Similar 'looking' situations need not be really similar and so such advices need not hold good.
People have a tendency to do good to others, but the easiest way is to give unsolicited advice !
Yet, an intelligent person would not totally refuse even such unsolicited advice, and instead take what works, leaving out politely what was not needed !
2006-09-10 21:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Christianity (so I believe) is all about relationships, and your church is so large that you mention you rarely see the same person twice, then this is a symptomatic result. People are not learning the spiritual skills of getting along with each other.
I suggest you look for another, smaller church where you can be part of a Christian Community.
2006-09-10 21:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rude 4 U 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because she's a Christian doens't mean that she's perfect! You get this kind of thing in every walk of life. However, the Christian thing is to not take offence. Maybe she was the mother of the preacher and was trying to get people involved for that reason!
She's an interfering know-it-all. Forget her.
2006-09-10 21:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cub scouts earn a badge if they help old people cross the street, something like that anyways. She probably felt like she was "helping" you (and in that way earning something). Saying "no thanks", took that away. Most of us aren't looking to "earn" anything when we try to help people, but then there are some who just need that for some reason. Being polite was the best thing you could have done.
2006-09-10 21:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by hartovalion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call me a cynic (it's be a fair cop yer honner, especailly on religion) but she coul;d be a "plant"
spotted you scratching your legs, knew it was on the 'Revs' list of special prayers cmon right up after the break, and sat next to you to encourage you to go up infront of the congreagtion and decalre it was a miracle that you were cured.
2006-09-10 21:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mark J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was she elderly? Don't worry about it, people try to help you, and tend to get noisy,
I am private too
I am sure she was being nice and a older generation are more pushy and forward then the younger..
I guess her mind wasn't on the service???
2006-09-10 21:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She was probably just searching for something to say to you and wanted to drag the conversation out as long as possible because she is lonely. It's quite sad that she needs conversation so badly but, it's not your problem.
2006-09-10 21:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt have the right to do that. When you go up there fro prayer it is for things YOU want to pray about not anyone else.
2006-09-10 21:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She only wanted to witness the healing power of the Lord!
2006-09-10 21:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋