My boyfriend and I are both Geminis! So everyone tells me that theres four people in the relationship, so that means its even crazier. But both of us are incredibly stubborn. We both have to WIN in every argument. We just hate being wrong. Any tips?
2006-09-10 20:38:30 · 21 answers · asked by booyah-baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fighting or Arguing? Hopefully not the former.
There's nothing wrong with a frank and forthright exchange of opinions and the fact that it gets so heated would suggest to me that you do care a good deal about each other. It also depends what you are arguing about, for example; if you are arguing about him seeing another woman or you wanting to go to college to improve yourself, these are fundamental issues that may indicate real problems in the relationship. I'm hoping it's neither or nothing so serious at any rate.
I'm a Gemini, might not have anything to do with it but I like a good argument and do take it to extremes also sometimes. Assuming there's nothing really wrong between you and you both just get carried away arguing your respective corners, then you just need to have a calm moment to talk to each other. Set a couple of rules so that neither of you has to sleep on the settee because you can't agree on who scored the winning goal in the 1982 FA Cup. Or something like it. Having a "stop" word like suggested above is good, also it takes only one of you to realise that you are going down that road again and to say "you know...you could be right...fancy an ice cream?". There's no rule that states that you have to agree with each other all the time and in my experience it would make for a boring relationship. Revel in your differences and keep a sense of fun when arguing.
Best of luck to you both. :)
2006-09-12 01:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by blank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a "stop" word, or action. I used to have one with my mother, when we'd get into "family crap". It was just a stupid word, that half the time would crack us up.(it was "flubble", by the way:P) Either person can say it, whenever they strart to feel the conflict is getting too serious of out of hand, but the rule is,that when it's said, you just back off, and talk about something else--no questions asked.:) It takes a bit of discipline, but it works, and can even be fun, if you're creative and humourous with it. If the conflict really does need a resolution, you can always come back to it when you're calmer, but half the time you'll just forget about it, and get on with having a life. Hope this helps:)
2006-09-11 23:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter if you're both Geminis. Its the person themselves that makes the difference. Both of you need to make compromises and sometimes give in.to each other. Caring and loving for each other sometimes requires sacrifices. Sometimes when you give in, your partner will apologize for what had happened.
Even if you both break up and see other people, if you cling to you ways of stubbornness, then other people will most likely leave you because they will not like you.
2006-09-11 04:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by skwsith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a boyfriend who's a Virgo. Just kidding. You both need to grow up and realize that you can't be right all the time. What do you argue about? If it's just a matter of opinion just agree that you disagree on a lot of things and go on from there. No need to fight about it because there's no winner.
2006-09-11 03:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right to blame it on your signs. Thats your whole problem right there. I would break it off and go find a scorpio or a... this is so stupid just grow up and quit blaming all the bad things that happen to you on your birth months. You ppl need to get a life
2006-09-11 03:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by dave d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have fun loving each other...there really isn't much to do with to stubborn people. Unless you can learn to compromise there is no hope for the fighting to quit.
2006-09-11 03:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wellcome to the club of stubborn Gemenis (I'm 1 too). 2 Gemenis can't get along toghether very well...but if there is love...
2006-09-11 03:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Λиδѓεy™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys relationship is just not healthy i would sugg you guys take a break from one another what joy do you get out of arguing all the time specially if both of you have to be right? there is no joy in that
2006-09-11 03:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. You two aren't meant for each other. If you truly love a person, you'll want to do anything for him/her and be a bit submissive. Obviously, neither of you want to, so you're doomed from the beginning.
2006-09-11 03:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look just try and talk it out cuz its a tried and tested method-Communication..but ifl he still finds his ego bigger dan you..den Ditch!!..but first u gota try and be ncie& understandin too..its 2 way gurl.. adn if dis fails den sit and reach a pact (dta is if u really wana make it work)
2006-09-11 03:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋