just want some opionios from all of you.
before i married my husband he was living with a girl (they never married) they lived together for about 8 yrs. she had a daughter whom had a baby while they lived together my husband got attached too the new baby.
when we got married. his then x gf and daughter tried everthing too tear us apart i kept my cool and took alot of crap over this for a long time. then one day i blew up after that my husband has not seen this little girl its been about two yrs. he at times blames me. was i wrong for putting a stop too all contact with the trouble
2006-09-10 20:36:29 · 12 answers · asked by Ozark American 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It was time for you to put your foot down and give him a piece of your mind. You are not to be blamed for his blotched relationship with his ex. Ask your husband to make up his mind as to his priorities in life. I would have done what you did had I been in your place.
2006-09-10 20:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by daffythecoolestduck 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont Worry!
It is always Good to Say what you feel to your partner rather then torturing yourself!
I think you did the right Thing! I am very Sure that even your husband will understand and with passing of time you can be flexiable and go with him to meet the little girl !
2006-09-11 03:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anurag Bhatia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds complicated. I don't think you were wrong to blow up after they gave you all that trouble. The real question is about the granddaughter, would she be better off having your husband in her life? Would you be willing to accept her into your life? What price would you have to pay (i.e. grief from the ex's) if he were able to see her again? If you know the answers to these questions, you'll know in your heart what you should do.
2006-09-11 03:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not if they were causing problems and he was obviously allowing it. Don't blame you a bit. He needs to figure out what's more important, I'm assuming you are since he's still with you, but it sounds like he's throwing it up in your face? Tell him to get over it.
2006-09-11 03:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by tikitiki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you have every right to ask him as you did now if this continues to be a problem then you might want to ask the hard question! better to know than not you got to ask about the parentage of the child I know that sounds ugly but his continued comments and refusal to let go bring me to ask is there more to this story than you have been led to believe. good luck reaper out..........
2006-09-11 03:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest that you have to get some advices from counselor this problem could not solved on line .for it is so difficult and you have go there with your husband the important thing in family is communications and you and your husband have hon-our to face the fact among you.
2006-09-11 03:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by kaku j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you not wrong but went about it wrong way. you should have told him how you felt in the beginning. you should however point out to hubby he married you and not old gf. he needs to make decision regarding the two of you it seems that he might have enjoyed the attention from exgf.
2006-09-11 04:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU WERE NOT!!!! U had every right to do that, and also your husband shouldve have lots more respect for you and cut off the ties himself, rather than wait for it to get to the stage it then got.
2006-09-11 03:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by Condie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u werent wrong.. every one of us hav a limit to wch we can stand things..and if you hav put up wth a truck load os S**T den Dun Wory hun.. You r rght in ur place.. Jus take care of things.. dun let it go now.. and of course tc of urslef.. :D
2006-09-11 04:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Kia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would said that you are right idea about your boyfriend/husand. but the way you done it is kinda wrong way.
you should sit down and talk to him. and that if he want to have a life with you or his ex life.
then take it from there. and move on
2006-09-11 03:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋