Heres the story, i been friends with this girl since the begining of the year and i've liked her ever since though shes had a boyfriend throughout most of the time though they broke up about a month ago so i decided to ask her out. She said she doesn't want to ruin our friendship because when we break up it will never be the same again and she doesnt want it to end like that cause she values me too much. Then i asked her if i had asked her out before we became close friends would she of said yes and she said probably. So do you think theres anyway that i could still get with her? I been working towards gettin to know her and being friends with her for so long and waiting for the day i could finally ask her out and now it seems like it was all for nothing.
2006-09-10 20:36:21 · 9 answers · asked by platinumdesigns22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes you definitely still have a chance! she is worried that if she gets into a relationship with you and it doesnt work you guys will find it hard to revert back to friends after that. she thinks that at least the current status is okay rather than after going into a relationship everything changes.
so you need to ask yourself whether she's the girl for you. if your answer is yes, then you should reassure her that she had been the girl that you always wanted and you would never try to hurt her. once you get her approval, you must try your very best not to hurt her in any way and loved her few years down the road just as you loved her now. you really need to put in lots of effort in making this relationship turn out right so that her worries are just a thing of the past that wont come true.
2006-09-10 20:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by mei mei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just does not want to be with you; at least in a serious relationship. Don't waste anymore time on her. You'll just get more depressed chasing her. When you asked her the question about going out with her before you became friends and she said yes, was she telling you the truth? It hurts not to be with a girl you really like. But it will hurt more if you do get together and she treats you stone cold.
2006-09-11 04:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by skwsith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she is telling you the truth.... or its something else entirely.
Notice a lot of the guys are telling you to move on and a lot of the girls are telling you there is still a chance. Hmmmm, makes you think, doesn't it? Maybe there is a chance, everyone's situation is unique, but girls will always tell a guy to hang around, because they always want to have "options".
Another issue is, a lot of guys can get really desirable girls.... IF they really sacrifice a lot dignity for it. IF you worship this girl, IF you are always always there for her, IF she feels 100% secure knowing you will never ever hurt her, IF you are willing to accept the fact that she likes you because you are safe and not for who you really are.... Just make sure if you ever succeed with her, that she likes you for you and not just because you are a safety net.
2006-09-11 03:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by s_e_e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Option 1: Tell her there is no reward in life without taking risk, and that you are willing to take the risk... You could also try the "When Harry Met Sally" Men and women can't be friends because there is always a sexual atraction. This is the perfect moment. Don't try the when harry met sally solution.
2006-09-11 03:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by shindaiwa21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying not to hurt your feelings. She's not interested. However, if you're friends with her long enough she can change her mind. Don't expect it though, you have to move on with your life. And truth be told, you probably won't be able to move on till you stop being friends with her. Sorry for the sad truth. After you stop being friends, who knows? Maybe she'll suddenly value you a lot more. Wouldn't count on it though.
2006-09-11 03:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks she's snowing you over giving you that excuse instead of being honest and just telling you she is not interested in you. In typical woman fashion she is manipulating you into thinking that she is truly interested in you as a friend to keep you around with the benefits that you give her such as attention and all instead of telling you the truth that she is only interested in what you can do for her completely hands off. Time to purge your life of such deceit and manipulation.
2006-09-11 03:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by georgestrait66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF SHE STILL DOES NOT WANT TO GET WITH U MOVE ALONG DUDE I ALSO HAD THE SAME THING LIKE U BUT SHE ENDED UP CALLING ME SOMETHING STUPID CAUSE SHE DIDN'T KNOW THE MEANING BUT WHO CARES ABOUT ME IF SHE DOES NOT ,BE FRIENDS FOREVER AND U WILL FIND SOME ONE SOON.
2006-09-11 04:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by jr570935 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a chance
2006-09-11 03:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and if she likes you u'll have a chance,if she doesn't then search for another girl.
2006-09-11 03:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Deea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋