My girlfriend and I are both really stubborn people so we tend to fight about stupid little things. We have been dating for over a year, and we really like eachother. We have talked about this problem but we dont know how to solve it. How can we work on becoming less stubborn?
2006-09-10 20:33:31 · 12 answers · asked by Troy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try To Give In To Her
If You Really Love Her
But If You Don't
Then Ask Her To Fly Off
2006-09-10 20:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Singapore_Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stubbornness is a character flaw. If you are fighting over stupid things, I think you love each other but you don't like each other as much. Change has to come from both of you, but individually. You cannot change him and he cannot change you. I would say that a great deal of self-improvement is needed here. Keep the lines of communication open.
2006-09-10 20:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know the root cause of your fights or should I say disagreements. You have to know what compromise BOTH of you will be taking into account and what things you should do to remedy them. If you are both stubborn only when upset, angry or frustrated then by all means that is normal. You have to accept that all of us are human and we were given emotions including being stubborn at times. But you both should know when to stop, when to concede and how to pacify each other. If you are upset and gets really stubborn what would you want your girlfriend to do to you? Would you want her to cuddle you? send you apology letter (if she is at fault)? send you sweet email? call you? then whatever is your answer to that ...maybe that is how she wants to be treated when she is upset or stubborn. Do unto others what you wanted to be done unto you. What does your instinct tell you to do? what does your heart and feelings tell you? Do you really care for her or love her? Act on it because women are emotional creatures and so are men.
2006-09-10 20:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your in a situation where you find yourself being stubborn. Just think for a moment and realize what your doing. Then Do the exact opposite of what your doing. Show her your trying to change. It would really surprise her. Then she might start doing the same for you.
2006-09-10 20:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a stubborn person too i find that just not saying anything or mabe agreeing keeps the peace but this is only a bandaid fix you both should just talk to each other and find out what sets the other off right hope that helps you
2006-09-10 20:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by shasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about using that stubbornness to make things a little livelier in the bedroom... :D go from stubborn to a little wrestling match and that should get the old juices flowing - and that stubbornness become a turn on!!! ;)
2006-09-10 20:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called being more flexible. You don't give examples of what you fight about, but everyone is entitled to their opinions. If it's a question of something that can be looked up, look it up and you will know the answer. If it's just opinion, give a little and be more open-minded. I'm talking about both of you, not just you.
2006-09-10 20:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise both me and my bf are stubborn Leos but usually one of us stays quite we been together 3 years and we always try to not let the little things bother us
2006-09-10 20:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by chunkybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the solution with you coz you know that you fight over stupid things so no need to worry just forget and start all over as if nothing happened.
BUT please dont let these fights overwhelm you by any means OK!!!
Take Care and Have Fun !
2006-09-10 20:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromising is the best way to deal with stubbornness n patience's
2006-09-10 20:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by shortiluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋