my girlfriend recently broke up with me and moved out. we are expecting a child in March, and moved in together in the first place so it was easier during pregnancy. she moved until I can prove i am responsible with money. I am working seven days a week and two jobs
2006-09-10 20:11:30 · 14 answers · asked by blueyed6977 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm sorry. Hope things improve having a baby is a big responsibility.
2006-09-10 20:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by rice riceissonice 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The list is endless. You can rub her back when it's sore, be yelled at when she's blue, fetch weird food in the middle of the night when she has cravings, cuddle her when she's scared, and simply be there for her.
Pregnant ladies sometimes don't think very straight. It's not the pregnancy that's the critical thing here, it's after the baby is born that you TWO need to get your act together. This baby is gonna need two parents and will have a better start if they live together, love and TRUST each other. Sounds like you are trying very hard. What do you have to prove to her and why? You can't work any more than you are and will need to have time with your child too.
Is she the ONE for you? Babies are damm hard work and there will be little time for you two to sort things out after it's born.
Apart from being pregnant what is your girlfriend doing? If she doesn't value your relationship then she will have to make a life as a single mom.
2006-09-10 20:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Dancemomma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow you are working hard and believe it or not it only gets harder once that baby comes. I am not trying to scare you. My BF had always been a hard worker but I was so concerned when I got pregnant about how he would deal.
My son is 3 and he is a wonderful father that works his but off! I work and go to school and its a challenge to stay a float. MY son loves his dad and I beleive all kids need a father but you don't have to be together to be a great father! Does she have reason to feel that you are not responsible?
The true test is actually wheb the child is born and coping. Good luck
2006-09-10 21:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by anjelahoy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
any undue amounts of stress is not good for mom or baby or dad in fact. If it easier and calmer for the two of you to be split while she is pregnant then that is the way it must be.
Also remember that woman are incredicbly sensitive during pregnancy and she may be (actually it sounds like she is) over reacting. But this time is not about you, and you as the father have to put your family unit first.
Good luck!
2006-09-10 20:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Then stop spending your money on selfish things!
To win her back, buy a crib, a stroller, some cute outfits, a car seat, all that stuff that you'll NEED for your baby, then bring it to wherever she is and ask her to come back to you.
Another HUGE way to win her back, besides these other things that I offered, is to show up to her house with an engagement ring and suggest a date (preferrably before baby comes, but leave that up to her). Then continue to prove yourself from there on out with your money.
If you have to, let HER take charge of the finances. My husband did that, and he doesn't regret it at all.
Good luck, man, you'll figure it out
2006-09-10 21:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, she needs your support, but you will have to prove that you will be able to support her and the baby not just emotionally but financially. You are doing the right thing by working hard, babies cost a lot of money.
2006-09-10 20:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Join the Army. You will have money, a career, benefits and a means to care for a family. Are you willing to really do what is required to keep a family going????
2006-09-10 20:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mark W 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she needs your support, but you will have to prove that you will be able to support her and the baby not just emotionally but financially.
As long as you two are not together you will miss out on ALOT of things. Like watching the baby grow! BEST WISHES
2006-09-11 02:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what about marriage?
you are going to marry her, aren't you?
is she playing you?
or were you just a sperm donor?
getting a haircut and a clean shave
and taking the metal stud out
of your chin to uplift your appearance
could help you get a good paying job,
that way you don't have to work 2 jobs
just because you like to look like a punker.
I would not hire you based on your photo.
2006-09-10 20:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not how much you make...its how much you keep, that's financial responsibility...If you bring home $4,000 a month and after doing everything you want all you have left is $500 that's not responsible, now if all your bills are paid and you save a grand that's better...she may just feel you are wasting too much money not managing it wisely or draining hers.
2006-09-10 20:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Skinny 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋