I have been with this girl for 4 years now. We are engaged. For about 9 months now our sex life has dwindled to almost nothing. SHe is Bi and has talked about getting a GF, and has stated that she would be uncomfortable with "sharing me" with her. I love my fiance with my life, but I am not sexually satisfied. Should I look outside of my engagement to find the physical gratification that I seek?
2006-09-10 20:11:26 · 20 answers · asked by Seppuku 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Firstly look inside your relationship and talk openly to her about your issues. Try to sort that out first.Give it time, then if not satisfied go out and hunt but first be decent and break it off with her. Don't be a cheat. (unless she agrees to your extra curriculum activities)
Sometimes having the best of both worlds can make your worlds collide and BOOM. You've lost it all.
2006-09-10 20:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think cheating on her will solve either of your problems. Perhaps in the short term it will make you more sexually satisfied, but it will only lead to becoming more frustrated in the long term.
You really need to talk to your fiance. A healthy sex life is important in any relationship, and if you're not happy, your dissatisfaction will spread to other facets of your relationship. Maybe you'll find out that she doesn't mind you having outside relationships, since she is asking to do that herself. But I'm inclined to think you might be due for some reexaming of your relationship if you both have a girlfriend on the side. If she is willing to work with you to explore why her sex drive has been low, then I say stick with it. You can work these problems out (I know, as my boyfriend of 1+ year and I worked through a sexual slump on my part too). However, if she refuses, I think you might have to think about leaving. It will be earth shattering, but if you have this much trouble in what should eb the honeymoon stage of a marriage, can you expect to deal with it for 30, 40, 50 years?
2006-09-11 03:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by nessa21087 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should break off the engagement. There's no future in that relationship. How can you be engaged to this woman and still want sexual needs from others? That's so wrong. And she's Bi and doesn't want to share you with her other secret lovers. Get the hint.
2006-09-11 03:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude.
Cold hard facts about your GF and your relationship:
1) Engaged and yet not married.
2) Zero sex life.
3) Bisexual and wants to cheat on you by getting a GF.
Get a life man and while you're at it, dump the d-y-*-e b-*-t-c-h and get a new, mature and straight woman with whom you can spend the rest of your life with. Don't waste your life with that d-i-l-d-o toting s-l-u-t.
2006-09-11 03:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
This is where you get when you dont talk with your partner. Yes, I am sure you talk, but you do not hear each other and do not ask how the other one feels. You made one of the most common mistakes. I am not playing the smarta..s here, I did the same mistake too. And me and my husband talked for real and figured whats wrong and what to do to fix it after long 8 years of being together and him cheating on me and me refusing to notice that its not only his fault.
Before doing something that will make the woman you love upset, sad and crying, talk to her. Tell her how you feel, tell her that there is a problem and that you are unhappy in some things.
If she loves you and if she cares, she will try to solve this together with you. She wont ignore you.
2006-09-11 03:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Julia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want an adult answer you need to ask an adult question. you already know the answer otherwise you wouldnt be here asking. If you arent satisfied then its time to move on. But cheating is the wrong way to do it. Break up with her
2006-09-11 03:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by dave d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously she isn't happy either, since she's talking about getting a girlfriend and doesnt plan on sharing. Maybe you should talk to her and tell her how you feel about your sex life and if she's getting another girlfriend, I don't see why you shouldn't be able to get someone else on the side either.
2006-09-11 03:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by laker_girl85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you know she was BI before you guy got together? She doesnt want to share you, but she can share herslef? That sounds a little funny to me. I wouldnt run out and find another partner, but try and see why she is straying. Maybe it is time to cut your losess and move on.
2006-09-11 03:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by late_sleeper35 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you better break off with your fiance since she's not comfortable with all that sharing thingy and you also not satisfied with your sexual life. why bother waiting for her as you can find other great girls around you.
2006-09-11 03:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by aim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
break up and wait for someone you deserve to arrive in your life. as i always say if your not satisfied you should find another. you may love her dude but if you always feel like that (not satisfied) youll eventually lose that lovin feeling.
and she freaking me out if she wants a GF, wake up dude you deserve better!!!
2006-09-11 04:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by say_what!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋