How do you deal with things? Is your way as bad/dangerous as mine? When a decision can change all your life!?

Question

What do you do when you're sad, angry, disappointed, feel terrible, failed something... ?
Do you throw things everywhere in the room? Do you break things, yell at someone, look for someone to fight with? How do you deal with all that?
Maybe, like me, you keep everything deep inside and show nobody the way you feel! God knows it does no good, right, I'm the proof! I never thought things would turn that way and become so bad! I mean as I started talking to nobody in here as nobody never cared anyway I chose a terrible way to cope with things. One day I took my scissors and cut myself! Now we're 6 years later and I'm addicted to that! I wish I could stop but can't! I have no other ways to deal with things and of course I keep it a secret so nobody around me knows! I don't do it for attention otherwise I would have let them see! I have to hide my scars! I do it because sadly I need it, always more, I almost died from it a few times and tried suicide too cause everything's too hard!

Answer 1

I deal with things in many ways. Sometimes I do take it out on my environment. I throw things, have temper tantrums, yell at people, or drive so fast I almost run off the road.
But, most of the time, I keep it inside just like you. And I've cut myself for the past seven months, probably due to the fact that my mother just died from cancer. But, it's been in me waiting to come out my whole life, it just took something huge for me to finally break down like this and actually do it.
I'm certainly not an expert at coping with the habit, because I haven't been able to quit either, but there are a few things I've done that have probably kept me alive.

First, I told people I trusted about it. I was lucky to have friends that cared about me enough that they didn't overreact, and they were willing to listen. They have gotten me through many a bad night. I know it must seem impossible sometimes to tell anyone about it, and it may turn out badly, but a tremendous weight will be lifted from your shoulders just because you do not have to hide it from that person anymore.
I have trouble recommending professional help, because I've had bad experiences with mental hospitals and doctors, and I'm almost completely against medication, but I'm sure if I'd looked harder I might have found a counselor who could actually understand and help me. I had one doctor tell me that I was simply 'uncivilized' and that really pissed me off...And I'm sure I am uncivilized, but I just found him very judgmental. But, then I also met some very sweet people that I could have talked to for hours, but were nurses or assistants that weren't qualified to counsel me.
Another trick I've learned that really helps is to simply put it off. If I want to hurt myself, I'll wait until night time. And then when night-time rolls around, I'll see if I can go until morning. And so on. It doesn't always work, because sometimes I'm just not in control at all, but if I'm upset and still logical in any way, it can save some really bad cuts and a lot of bleeding. At least then the wounds aren't too deep.
I'm not sure if anything I've said will help you, or if you're even looking for help (your question was rather vague in motivation) but I hope I contributed something...If nothing else, I helped myself by helping you. And that's someting else I've learned, that a healthy focus on other people can distract you from your problems.
Well, just know that I know at least half of where you're coming from, and that I know it's hard. It's not easy or fun getting through problems like these, but I'm still open to the fact that it's completely possible.

Answer 2

I'm a screamer, when I'm happy or sad, everyone around me knows about it. I get it overwith, then five minutes later I feel fine again.

You need to see a therapist right away for the cutting and suicidal thoughts. Don't wait. That sort of behavior is very addicting and shameful, it is impossible for you to quit on your own. Please seek help now and join a support group with other cutters and recovered cutters who can offer you support.

Answer 3

its a tuff world we allhave to learn taking one step at atime have you stepped out side and tried lookin in .?life is what you make it and you have to live with it we all make mistakes most of us learn from them some take alittle longer try to find anew hobby throw the scissors out find a friend that will be honest and listen it may help hey life does have good days too look for them or make them happen good luck from texas

Answer 4

You don't have to be perfect. No one is perfect. Anyone who expects you to be perfect is insane and doesn't care about you. You don't need criticism, you need unconditional love. This book helped me a lot and might help you, if you're willing to dig deep.

"Emotional Resilience" by David Viscott, MD
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0517888254/

Answer 5

LIFE IS GOOD BUT SOMETIMES IN LIFE WE HAVE TO FIGHT FOR IT TO BE GOOD.
THERE ARE MEDICATION THAT CAN HELP YOU WITH YOUR CUTTING ALSO PEOPLE WHO WILL LISTEN IF YOU NEED TO TALK...HOT LINE NUMBERS IN THE PHONE BOOK OR CALL YOUR LOCAL HOSPITAL.THERAPY CAN HELP TOO.IF THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY...BUT YOU HAVE TO ASK AND YOU HAVE TO WANT HELP...GOOD LUCK
FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHT TO HAVE HAPPINESS..

Answer 6

listen to music , cry, scream and for some reason eat, ya and when im really pissy, i go to sleep