i'm gonna be mom pretty soon. i'm ending the relationship with my baby's father.i don't want his help. he doesn't know i'm pregnant if i tell him he will force me to get an abortion.does governement gives u some money if really need help. and can i work till my baby's born without taking any vacation. cause i need to work veryhard to give my child food clothes, good living
2006-09-10 19:20:31 · 17 answers · asked by busy_b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
There are people around to help you. Birthright is an organization that can direct you to many support groups (If you are in the USA that is) and well, go to a local Christian church and tell them of your struggle and ask them for help and direction.
You can do this. It may seem scary, but once those precious little fingers and toes and kissable little cheeks and dreamy eyes grab hold of you... You will be empowered to do what ever it takes to make it in this world. Don't be scared. You can do it. You're doing it now aren't you? You are already a mommy with your little one needing you to care for yourself and him/her.
EDIT: I just read your previous question and learned that this man of yours is married with children for 15 years. Well, as I am dead against abortion, I still vote for having your baby, but agree that it might be wise to move on from this fellow. He is a bit of a slime ball and doesn't really deserve to be a part of this baby's life. However, the child does deserve at some point to know who their father is. This is a real pickle you are in. I wish you would not have done this to yourself and everyone involved, but what is done is done. Now you just need to wise up and make good decisions from here on out. Or else you may live with regrets for the rest of your life that will haunt you to eternity and beyond.
You don't think he will hurt you if he finds out do you? If he feels like his world is about to fall apart, you don't think he will toss you in a river or something do you? I am serious. A man like this could do anything if he thinks his wife and kids are about to find out about his indiscretions. You really need a lot of support right now and no more lies and deception. It is time to come clean and get the help you need, while making as clean a break as possible from this man.
God bless you and best of life to you and yours.
2006-09-10 19:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The government will help a little. You can get help with formula and food but as far as cash money it is hard to get. You have to work voluntarily to get that money and its only like 5.15 an hour. Call you local Job and Family Service. They should be bale to hook you up with some programs like WIC ( helps with formula).
If you don't want shild support for the baby then you need to tell them that you have no idea who the babies father is. Don't put his name on the birth certificate. If you do then the government will go after him for child support which means he will have visitation and all kinds of headaches for you.
2006-09-11 02:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dana J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he can't make you have an abortion , he can always ask
yes you can work until your are on labor in the US no one give a damm (the only time a comp cares is when it will effect them on way or an other)
as for does the gov will you money
1 the gov did not get you preg
2 if you want to waste your time in line waitign to have rude people put you down go for but you will only end up with 200 per month
also note before they even help you they will try to callect child support from the father
Since you are determine to this on your own
I wish luck , and strengh
2006-09-11 02:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K, first of all congratulations.
I am raising my daughter by myself so here is what I found. In my state there are things like W.I.C. which helps provide you with food you need while pregnant to keep you healthy and strong, after the baby is born it will provide you with formula, which is really expensive. We also have a program called Denali Kid Care, which will cover all my babies doctor and e.r. visits until she is the age of 18 as long as my income qualifies.
I worked up until the night my daughter was born. I got off work at 6pm and went into labor at 10pm. I only took 6 weeks off. I needed to go back to work so I could pay bills and things.
If you need daycare your state might also help pay at least part of the cost. Mine pays like up to 75% if I choose to put her in day care.
I would say get on your state government website and see what you can find, if not go to your state building and see what they say.
Good Luck.
2006-09-11 02:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is help actualy. in new york state it is called "Women infants children"or WIC. i am not sure what it is called in other states. but they give you formula and diapers and other kinds of assistance. like health care for you and the baby and all sorts of things. im pretty sure that there are these kinds of programs in everystate. you should look into it. do a google search for ones in your area. a friend of mine is on this program and it helps her alot...
also, regaurding the father. you can have a baby with the father slot on the birth certif empty. the only way the father can contest his rights is to get a paternity test. just something to think about.
p.s. what a jerk if he would make you get an abortion
2006-09-11 02:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of programs to help pregnant women and mother of small children. There is a program out there that gives vouchers for dairy products, healthy ceral, and other things. I just can't remember what its called. Ask your doctor. You may or may not need to take time off. Lots of women work up until they give birth. It just depends on how your pregnancy goes.
2006-09-11 02:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by CrissKross 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
baby don't keep it a secret from the daddy because he has a right to know. tell him that you don't want a abortion but you feel he should know, i don't understand how you can lay down with a man then when you have a misunderstanding you are ready to go your separate ways. come on people that's why god said wait until you are married because you all act like you don't suppose have differences of opinions.
2006-09-11 02:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by sweet sexy san 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ppl are such ******* , yes the government will help and its not called welfare. Yes you can work up until the day you pop as long as the doctor says its okay. Try local churches they help too
2006-09-11 08:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is help out there. You should tell the father about this; you know he is not going to leave his wife or he would have by now. It's his child he should help pay for it he helped make it.
2006-09-11 02:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't force you to get an abortion and he needs to pay for his kid instead of me paying for it. I'm tired of getting up and going to work everyday so I can give 1/3 of my pay to idiots who couldn't figure out how to work a rubber.
Single moms on welfare should have to have sex with any taxpayer that wants it. If we're going to pay for her screwing around we should get to do the screwing around.
2006-09-11 02:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋