Serious answers only please. I was engaged back in 2001 and my fiance died the day before we were to wed. I still love him with all my heart. My question is......... would it be wrong if I eventually met someone else and moved on? Can TRUE LOVE happen twice? Or should I just stay faithful and live with the memories I have? Help PLEASE! (I am also a Christian and I want to do what's right in the eys of God).........
2006-09-10 18:48:21 · 19 answers · asked by Lori B 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
god wants what's best for u & your life.
Your ex-fiance is now in your past. god doesn't want u holding on to or dwelling on the past.
no, it's not wrong if u eventually meet someone else. if you're a christian, just pray to god that he'll bring you a person that loves god w/all their hearts. pray for god's perfect will, not your will, nor your permissive will. but god's perfect will. let gods perfect will be done.
your x will always have that special place in your memories & heart. that's ok.
god wants u 2 b happy. fast & pray for god's perfect will. prepare your spouse, the person god has hand picked for you.
seek & ye shall find.
2006-09-10 18:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by lu 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
move on. If you trust God then allow Him to give you discernment regarding leading a single life or leading you to the one you are to marry. Either way, your former fiance is no longer here. I am truly sorry for your loss but you are still here and alive. Treasure your memories and your time together , but don't allow them to keep you from living here and now. we are not to live our lives with our minds and hearts obsessed and dwelling with the dead- we become ineffective that way. Pray for God's comfort and healing, let go of the past- you can do this while still keeping your memories a special treasure and live today- THIS is the day the Lord has made, be glad , rejoice in it and allow Him to give you a life abundant and full of His joy and love!
2006-09-11 01:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bless your heart. I have a wonderful Christian husband who lost his first wife to cancer after three years of marriage. I know from his experience how difficult that kind of loss can be.
Dear one, I trust that God will bring someone into your life whom you can love and who will love you, because it is alright to marry someone else. The Scripture says that when a person's mate dies, they are free to marry, so I'm sure that when a fiance dies, you are also free to marry.
2006-09-11 02:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by Songbird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can never love someone the same way as you loved your fiance, Just be blessed in knowing your love for him is a bond only you and him will have.It's time to move on with your life, Love is never the same with everyone. Each person you love whether its one or more is special in its own way.
2006-09-11 02:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by aztec_68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be wrong of you to move on. I truly believe that true love can happen twice because in the first case, it wasn't meant to be since it was your fiance's time to go. I think you deserve to move on and be happy and I'm sure that's what your finance would have wanted for you!
2006-09-11 01:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am glad you bring this out on us to answer:
My position is this: Let your fiance go. He is no longer involve in the physical affair. The more you think about him the more you are making it difficult for him to cross the other side. Emotion is a very powerful force in the dimension he is currently in. The mere thought of holding him in your memories would create a strong force to pull him over from crossing the other side. Let him go and you will bring peace to both of you.
He would want you very much to have a new love. Because it's best for both of you. Let go and move on.
2006-09-11 02:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Frontal Lobe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will always have the memories with your fiance. You can definately love someone else. If you can find someone else that you can connect with again, then don't hold back. Your fiance would want you to be happy.
2006-09-11 01:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey sweety,first of all i am so sorry to hear that,may GOD send the comfort you need to heal.i would pray that GOD send you the right person.someone that is your match.cause only GOD truly knows you and knows who would be good to you.and yes it is ok to move on.the bible isn't against marriage after death,and besides you didnt get the chance to marry.so in GOD'S eyes you
are still pure.good luck and GOD BLESS YOU TODAY AND ALWAYS!!
2006-09-11 02:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by meluvchris418 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love my daughter more than canbe expressed. When my son was born, that did not change, and I love my sone the same. True love can happen as many times as you will allow. you must be fair to yourself and make sure you are open to it, and never think you have to let go of the love you have held. Godd tevels to you.
2006-09-11 01:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by neil s 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should move on, I think your fiance would want that for you. And yes true love can happen again.
2006-09-11 01:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋