When my boyfriend gets mad, he says very spiteful things,?

Question

and he says things like **** you ***** over and over again. Says other "below the belt" things to hurt my feelings and the next day says he is sorry. HE didnt mean it, he was just so mad and frustrated. He generally treats me good otherwise. What should i do?

Answer 1

Look thats just his temper he really loves you he doesnt mean to hurt u thats the last thing he want to do he just lose his temper and starts talking but im pretty sure he loves u cuz he ask for forgivness cuz if he didnt then he wouldnt care but dont worry dont let it get to u help him out not to get mad at thing just try to calm him down

Answer 2

Haha, all the time! It's either her time of the month (or close to it, or getting of of it), she's stressing out and snapped at you, or you did something that really pissed her off. There's also a list of other reasons that could go on. She might've done something and blamed it on you. Etc, etc. There could be a small percentage that she could be re-thinking your guys' relationship for the time being, but that's not usually the case. And if it is, I wouldn't sweat about it. Only because it's not always as serious as it is. You've been together for quite some time. I will admit it, us girls...are crazy. We say one thing, but we want you to do another. We get mad over the simplest things. We're stubborn, high-maintenance at times, and yah! If you can, just forgive her and ask if there's anything that's been bothering her lately. Or hug her and just let her know you still love her and she'll feel bad about getting mad at you. Try not to hold it against her, or think about it too much.

Answer 3

verbal abuse can be worse than physical abuse because you cant see the wounds it leaves and it can stick with you for the rest of your life, no woman deserves to be called anything but beautiful, it took me a very physically and mentally abusive relationship and 5yrs of my life to realize that.
There is no reason for someone to get so mad that he can only say mean things because when you get to the point where you start to say things back to him he will start to realize that words don't hurt you anymore and use his fists instead and believe me sometimes you wish they would just hit you because the bruises go away but the wounds in your heart don't.
Even now almost 2yrs after leaving that abusive relationship I still think about the horrible things he would say to me and wonder if it was really true but there is also that little voice that tells me how good it felt when I fought back with my fists and he ended up with the bruises and on occasion he ended up knocked out on the floor. I know I'm just rambling on but you need to know that it always starts with words and just gets worse from there so I would seriously think how much you need this guy and the abuse that he is starting, either put an end to the relationship or get some professional help for the both of you.

Answer 4

The next time say things like **** you ***** over and over again and other "below the belt" things to hurt his feelings. Then the next day say your sorry,you didnt mean it, YOU were just so mad and frustrated.

Answer 5

If you don't demand respect from this idiot, you deserve whatever verbal abuse you get. Sit down and look him in the eye and tell him how much his behavior hurts you. Yeah, Yeah, he's sorry...BIG DEAL! He's not so sorry that he's stopped the behavior, is he? Tell him straight up...look, I'm telling you if you do this again, there will be no "next time"; there will be no "sorry" because I will be gone! And if he does verbally abuse you again, immediately remind him of what you told him and tell him to leave. Then don't take him back because he's messing with you and has probably done it to others. Godloveya.

Answer 6

Leave. By keeping quiet you're quietly saying it's ok for him to do it again, and again. Has his rage gotten worse lately? And always he says I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

Lady this guy is a real looser and unless he is currently in therapy his rage is gonna get worse and hurt somebody bad, maybe you. It will not get better by itself, it will get worse. If your daughter or best girlfriend was dating this guy and asked for advice what would you tell her. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with a loser with uncontrolled rage?

Answer 7

tell him to think next time he gets mad that he's hurting you're feelings, and that one day, sorry the next day isn't gonna cut it. dont take it, cause the more you do, the more normal its gonna get, and he might not even be "sorry" the next day. either that, or it might get worse. im not sayin dump him (not yet anyway) or anything, but if he doesn't stop, its not going to be very good in the future.

Answer 8

I think that's a guy thing. My bf has done that before. I'm a very calm non-confrontational person, and one day he just kept saying hurtful things and I just exploded on him and told him to shut the F**K up. I think he was shocked. He hasn't done it since. Maybe that's what you need to do. I did tell him later that personal insults need to stop.

Answer 9

When he swears at you, leave. It is because he wants to hurt you that he says these things.

If it keeps happening, why would you want to stay with someone who treats you like that. I don't care how many times he says he's sorry. If he is really sorry, he wouldn't do it.

Answer 10

Let him know that this is not acceptable behaviour. You do not treat people you love this way!!!! Tell him if it happens again, that you will have to think about not seeing him. If he wants to keep you, he'll have to learn to respect you. That is rediculous behaviour!!!! He may have gotten away with this with other girls, but don't you fall for his tantrums.