There was this guy that was friends of a friend. I knew he liked me all the rest of the crowd knew he liked me. He never acted on it and I figured he didn't like me I gave him a year to answer me and discuss how we felt. No answer and he denied it. Then he threatened my new boyfriend and made a lot of problems with our relationship. He was possessive but didn't want to date me and didn't want anyone else dating me. Finally I tried to write it off but every year about this time I think about the what ifs and if I was wrong or am still wrong abotu wondering the what ifs. Do you all think it was just some jokes some friends were pulling on me?
2006-09-10 17:53:22 · 11 answers · asked by KayAlley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that he probably did like you, but for whatever personal reasons just couldn't act upon them. But hey, that's lucky for you! Judging from out this guy acts, you are waaaay better without the creep. Sometimes there are guys who like you, but just can't commit. And even though they have made the concious decision to not go out with you, they still want to treat you as if you have been claimed as theirs.
I'd say chalk it up as life. Fate had thrown you a curve ball with the first guy, and luckily through some weird turn of events, you dodged it and found yourself a good guy. As much as it stinks to not know the exact truth, sometimes its just better to let it go.
And if that guy gives you anymore grief I would suggest you get a restraining order. Who needs that kind of annoyance? Good luck and take care!
2006-09-10 18:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nixxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right choice is so obvious! This guy is bad news, You really dodged a bullet with this one cuz if you had of gotten involved you would be with a sociopath or worse. It sounds like he just wanted to control your life and make you miserable for some strange reason. Maybe keeping you wondering gave him some kind of devious thrill. Wherever this guy is and whoever he is with, she will pay a horrible price cuz he will ruin her life and probably anyone's life who gets involved with him. If your mind turns to wondering about this again, just say "I am so lucky he didn't ask me out, I am free to choose someone who will treat me right like I deserve!"
2006-09-11 01:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lean on Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its wrong that you think about the what 'ifs'. i sometimes wonder what 'if' over someone i met when i was 16 and he was a little older. i wonder what he is doing now and how things are going for him.
if it really plays on your mind, is there anyway of contacting him now?? if not then let it go and move on. good luck.
2006-09-11 01:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was a joke, but I guess I don't know the whole story. It sounds like just what you said. He was possessive. He didn't have the balls to act on his end, so too bad. he gets no right to b*^ch when you move on.
2006-09-11 00:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by snshnbtrflis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who goes out of his way to cause problems in your relationship, is not worth worrying about. Be happy you didn't end up in a relationship with you.
2006-09-11 00:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, but its best that you didn't act no it if you say that he was possesive. i mean, he didn't really have a right to be, and especially to threaten your bf. so what if he did, maybe you weren't supposed to go out with him, forget about him and find someone who will be real with you, he had his chance to tell you the truth, he didn't take it, you don't want that.
2006-09-11 00:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by ¿¡¿¡Que!?!? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gave him a whole year? Thats nuts Women must never appear desperate NEVER they will run. Its old news. Forget it now. If he wanted you he would have said so long ago...
2006-09-11 00:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it eat at you like that, not healthy for you. Just pass it off and forget him, go on with your life. It sounds like he just wanted to play games with you.
2006-09-11 00:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Bar10der 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery,
We have today, and that's why it's called the present" Eleanor Roosevelt.
You can't change yesterday, but what you do with today CAN change all your tomorrows. So use your todays wisely.
2006-09-11 00:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Gran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody was playing any jokes on you...but what i think you better be real glad you didn't end up with that loser.
2006-09-11 00:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Gez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋