I was in a long distance relationship with someone. Her and I both decided that since we weren't able to see each other as often as we'd like we'd just stay close friends. The thing is we both kind of still have a thing for each other and neither of us wants to date other people. So we used to say I love you and all of that but now that we're "broken up" it kind of seems weird to say it now. I still feel it 100% and I think she does too but is that ok to do? Like when you end a phone converstation or a IM conversation, is it still alright to do that?
I know, i know its weird but we kind of "broke up" because things were moving so fast with only seeing each other a few times (only twice, while not being able to for the last 4 months). So i guess I just wanted to see everyone's take on it. Thanks in advance.
2006-09-10 17:46:40 · 11 answers · asked by mtugodfath3r 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe you can continue to say I love you. if you still have the feelings go with it. It hard to break the habit. You can also try to say something else at the end of the conversation in place of I love yo to break you of the habit if you really dont want to say it. What does she do? Is there that pause before you hang up that wanting to say something more pause? If its there both of you are on the same page. Good luck though.
2006-09-10 17:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by cecejrg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that if it seems like you both still have a thing for each other and are reluctant to see other people, why break it off? You should get back with her. Don't let something great slip away just because you are far apart. Even if you don't get back together, say what you feel. You never know when it will be the last time you speak with someone. Don't ever hold back the truth about how you feel. Believe me, the guilt of doing that will eat at you. Tell her, and maybe she'll feel the same.
Best of luck to you both!
2006-09-11 00:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by missesmoo236 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know man, i mean if the feelings are there i would say conitinue to date. I mean the only reason people usually break up a long distance thing is when they know that they can find somone closer to home. If you continue to say that you love eachother might make it more awkward too if one of you does meet someone new. I mean if she meets someone new and all of a sudden drops the i love you part, it's going to hurt. To me it sounds like you're your both wanting to use eachother as a back up thing until you find someone closer to home. I would say to either keep dating or just be friends, and not say that youlove eachother. I would just say to talk to her about it tell eachother how much you still care and go from there. Then if one of you does meet another you've both said your feelings and won't regret not saying them later.
2006-09-11 01:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kim J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not a weird question. You know you cant turn your feelings off and on if so then you can get over alot ot things in life. So stop loving someone aint easy you can still tell her you love her because if you dont then she will probaly feel in the back of her head did he really love me. So think about it you will probaly love her for along time.
2006-09-11 00:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by nina j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be like, look, i know we're not together anymore, but, i still love you. this would be best on the phone because its more personal than im, and you can kind of tell her reaction/"expression" . you'll be able to see if she does more easily, and if she doesn't and it turns out that she doesn't say it back/feel the same way, than its better either way because you wont have that illusion that there might be something there, but never really being sure of it.
2006-09-11 00:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by ¿¡¿¡Que!?!? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i love you is so strong, so intimate, well at least its supposed to be. i really dont think you guys should say it because the relationship is not on that level. eventhough you may feel it, but you cant do anything about it. so just remain friends, with no strings attached
2006-09-11 00:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by psychologistnovelist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD SAY HOW YOU FEEL. LIFE IS TOO SHORT AND TOO PRECIOUS TO BE HOLDING BACK FEELINGS AND THEN REGRETTING THE FACT THAT YOU DIDN'T SAY WHAT YOU FELT...AFTER IT'S TOO LATE. TELL HER YOU LOVE HER AND THAT YOU WANNA BE WITH HER AND THAT YOU WANT HER TO BE THE MOTHER OF ALL 50 MILLION OF YOUR KIDS!!! I MEAN THAT'S HOW YOU FEEL ANYWAY RIGHT?
2006-09-11 01:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by CHASE_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is how we, human, tend to react even if we know each other through any mode of communication.
so all is fair.
2006-09-11 01:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way, it is totally inappropriate to say it in the context you are refering to, if you are no longer in a reltionship with her. you can still love her, but theres a difference if you were in love with her.
2006-09-11 00:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with cecejrg
2006-09-11 00:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by Totoru 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋