I kept them under my bed and my bf was upset when he found out about them. My ex was my high school sweetheart. we had been together for 3 years. we had shared many tears and joy. He was the first one I fell in love with. we broke up because of distance. so many years have passed and of course I had moved on long ago. I’m serious into every relationship I’ve had with my bfs. now, I love my current bf so much and I’m sure he's my future husband.
those stuffs from my ex are just sweet memories. I don't wanna throw them away cos i know keeping them doesn't affect me and my relationship at all. I don't think throwing all the stuffs from an ex can tell whether you've got over ur past. my ex is now happily married. however, my bf said I should've thrown them away or perhaps buried them and they can still remain a sweet memory in my heart.
2006-09-10 16:52:03 · 30 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had move on 5 years ago. i just can't think any reason why i should throw them away. every piece of them was written, created and given by my ex with all his heart. i just wanna keep them cos i know how much he had done for me in the past. those are only sweet memories, nothing else. I love my bf whole-heartedly. he knows how i feel about him. but he just thinks these stuffs should go away.
2006-09-10 17:12:25 · update #1
What is with all these people who want you to throw away your old love letters? These are YOUR letters, not your boyfriend's (and certainly not any of these other answerers)!
I too have some "love" letters that a high school sweetheart wrote me years ago. We also broke up due to distance. My husband knows about them; my ex-husband knew about them too. They have no bearing on my life today, other than they occupy a little space in my memory box. I did not hide them or cause anyone to be embarrassed by them. He too got married and it's LONG over (I haven't seen or heard from him in nearly 15 years and it's fine with me). I guess I kept the letters because they meant a lot to me at the time. It was from a time in my life when I needed to read these things and I wouldn't dream of disposing of them because someone told me to. You have no way of knowing whether this relationship with your current boyfriend will work out and if you get rid of the letters because of him now, what will you feel like if he dumps you? You got rid of your letters for a guy like that? I'm not hoping you lose your relationship, just that you should remember who really matters in your life...YOU!
It's kind of like a woman who gets rid of her cat or dog because her boyfriend doesn't like it, only to have him dump her at the altar anyway. She's out the relationship and the animals.
I can see that your boyfriend is probably jealous about being one in a line of beau's. Too bad. You came to this relationship with your own memories, your own baggage. He comes carrying his own baggage and probably some trust issues. You shouldn't hide the letters, nor should you destroy them. He's trying to take something away from you that means something. If it didn't mean anything, you wouldn't have asked for our opinions. It has nothing to do with holding onto the past...it has to do with personal history and moving forward. You can see where you've been and how far you've come. That's how I view my letters. I wouldn't return to him if he was the last guy on earth, especially that he's married and I'm happily married! It's in my past and I'm proud of my past. Part of me wants to just save that stuff for posterity, so my kids someday know that there was intrigue in my life at one point.
These other people are just jealous that they never received such letters or sent anything so romantic!
Don't let someone else dictate what you save for memories!
2006-09-10 17:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A new BF might only be upset if he thinks YOU have lingering feelings for the author of the old love notes. Are you sure you don't?
If you are really sure then perhaps keep one and get rid of the rest. the one you keep should be shown to the new BF so he realizes how much a written expression means to you, then after he realizes it and sees perhaps where he can win in your heart, destroy that last kept love note and tuck all the memories in your head and not under the bed.
2006-09-10 16:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by damanofdaday 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason at all to throw away memories. I have pictures and cards and letters from my past loves, I keep them in a box. It's obviously a box of mementos and I am not ashamed or anything. I might be embarrassed at the ones from high school -- all those i's dotted with little hearts......
2006-09-10 17:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your memories and a part of your life. If you want to get rid of them, then let them go. I wouldn't do it because some other guy is insecure. Keep on that track and you'll be controlled soon.
I had an ex that controlled my heart long after my head called it quits and I walked away. I burned her letters because it needed to be done to move on.
But outside that once you dump or burn your memories, they are gone. Its your decision, not his.
-Rob
2006-09-10 17:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, throw them away. Nobody can take the good memories away. Start off with a clean slate.
He is an X for a reason, right?
Would you like the same thing if it were done to you.
2006-09-10 16:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by reheaded_babe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I broke all the letters from my former girlfriends when I got married. I think marriage needs a fresh starts and you have to get ride of all baggage you had before. What would you think if your bf would still having love letters of former girlfriends?
It is better to look ahead and don't look back, maybe you can still be friends, but a Christmas card is enough.
2006-09-10 16:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by wazup1971 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-26 19:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow a lot of people on here are really mean, i dont think its wrong at all, They are documents if nothing else, and can be kept for many reasons. Study: see if future relationships bring the same letters.
Memory: to remember that relationship and to show your future children ETC
I think its cool, i did the same for awhile, i burnt all of mine, and now i regret it, it was a stupid act, Dont set yourself up to take a fall, just keep them and try to store them where you wont dwell on them.
2006-09-10 19:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dylan F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um I dont think It's wrong. I still Have all of my Gf Stuff and Every letters thay Wrote to Me. Um Just tell Hin Its a Memeory Box Full of Stuff From the Past.??
2006-09-10 16:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Tony C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no its not wrong, you guys fell in love right, and those are memories that you have, and the letters are a memory too, what i believe is, don't destroy something just cause it was in the past, keep it, you'll never know if one day you do destroy them, and then the day you want to look at them, they won't be there.
2006-09-10 17:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋