he lives alomst 3 hours away..we use to date about 6 years ago. but truth be told i am scared to jump into a relationship.. i already have 2 kids and he says that it dont bother him..he is caring,sweet,funny..just everything that i want..he says that distance dont bother him that he would drive 6 hours if he had to. I am just at that crossroad where i dont know which one to take. Do i go left where it might be me and my kids for the rest of my life or do i go right where there is someone who really wants to make a relationship with me? And is not scared that i already have 2 kids. I am scared to jump into this..I just dont let men in and out of my life..I am so confused and dont know what to do?
2006-09-10 16:48:02 · 16 answers · asked by katie7_6_2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go out with him, but take it slow, and tell him why. If he's the right one, he'll be patient with you, give you the time you need. Good luck.
2006-09-12 13:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is sometimes like learning to swim, if you don't go into the water, you will never learn how to do it, it is also about trust and letting someone into your life even if you feel vulnerable. This guy sounds like he truly loves you and the kids, you should at least give him the benefit of the doubt and give the whole thing a try.
Everyone has been at a crossroads where you feel both ways might hurt...and you are right, remember every choice implies letting go of some other thing, and with this in mind decide: a possible life on your own with the kids or a possible life with a man that loves both the kids and you.
Take your time, make lists if you have to (measuring pros and cons) and most of all, don't be afraid of love.
Good luck.
2006-09-10 16:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by White 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just fallow what your heart tells you, nt what your mind tells you. when you fallow your heart, thats when you know that you made a good choice. You should never be scared of love. Love is a wornderfull feeling of wormth in your heart. And trust me that is not a bad thing. If you trully love this man, and if he will do anything for you and your kids. Then he must truly love you. When someone truly loves you they will never try to break your heart. They will only try to make it better. So dont be scare of love, be happy that you are loved, and that you love that person.
2006-09-10 16:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Angellisa T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is everything you want in the world then why are you asking this and waiting for something else to come along. I would say that it better then most people would say. I think you should jump right in, he is your dreams, isnt he!
2006-09-10 16:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't know, don't decide now.
your children need a fatherly figure who will honestly help you at all times and you need a man who loves and cares for you.
the best thing to do is to get to know him and not jump into any relationship at all.
as well as asking God to give you wisdom and lead you to the right man. ask Him if this is the right man.
take care
2006-09-10 16:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are usually very straightforward about their feelings, now this is about 2 great kids you have. If he says its not a problem then im sure he really means it
2006-09-10 16:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably will never go away,but you need to start taking chances,it get lonely out there.Thank God,that you have children,to keep you busy.Let your Heart be the Judge.
2006-09-10 17:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rather be dead than red... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind that you will not allow past hurts to have power over you. Allow yourself to get involved with someone again, take it slow.
You dont want to short change yourself because someone else hurt you.
2006-09-10 16:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sometimes you just have to take a risk to have a good outcome.........If you think that this risk is too great and you like being alone, there's nothing wrong with that.......Seems to me like you just need some reassurance that everything will be okay.......Take your time, get to know him and enjoy having him around..........
2006-09-10 16:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start slow, get to know someone and let it grow. As John Lennon said "Love is a flower you have to let it grow." "Try and love again" The Eagles.
2006-09-10 16:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by da_Boo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋