Ok, so I think that every person in this life meets someone who they want to get old with... I don't know if I believe in fate or not, but I know I found the person that I want to be with forever, and I don't want to ruin it. We have been together for 7 months and I really love this girl more than anything, I do.
I need help though... I know that it's hard and that I'm going to have to face lots of problems ahead and stuff, and I'm ready, but this is THE girl I want, the only thing I want in life is to be with her, so if you are a person that has had lots of experience or maybe your with someone that you have been with, or you've been married for 2093847 years and you have ANY advice about anything, please tell me because I would like to be prepared. I am only seventeen, I know, but I've dated a LOT of girls, and this is the one, and I don't wanna screw it up... so if you have any advice for me it would be GREATLY appreciated... lol remember im a real person out there and ill listen..
2006-09-10 16:41:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dated a girl for alomst 4 years thinking we'd be together forever and it didn't work out.
Sorry to put a downer on your relationship but its very hard to tell how thngs are gonna turn out.
Good luck though, I hope you can make it.
2006-09-10 16:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be like all the other people on this reply but I am not going to. I think that if you truly love each other, and you know each others feelings I say go for it. My only advice always respect each other, be honest, and wait until you have graduated. That way you don't have all the pressures of high school. Plus you both will be able to support yourselves. There will be fights, but never go to bed angry, or leave each other when angry. You never know what could happen. Life is to short. I met my husband on March 10th, 2002, we moved in together on September 11th, that same year and were engaged in December. We have been married for 2 years now. My parents were the same way got married within 3 months on knowing each other. When you find the one you just know. But I recently lost a loved one and life is to short. You have to seize the moment before it passes you by. So if you love her as much as you say you do. Go for it. Good Luck. You can e-mail me and tell me how it went. I wish you both all the best.
2006-09-11 00:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by meesh_nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is patient. It waits. If you 2 are meant to be together, you will be. In the meantime, the greatest gift you can give each other and your future family is an education. Go to college and get a degree so that you can support your wife and children. Even though you love this girl, meet as many people as you can because that will teach you about human nature. If you get seriously involved too early, you will have regrets. You will think that you missed something. I have been happily married for 38 years so I know what I'm talking about.
2006-09-10 23:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 17 so your feelings probably will change over time so dont be surprised if you get dumped for no reason in a few years or sooner. For now, remember girls like attention. Call her at least once a week, but not more than once a day. Let her know you care/ love her often. Girls like to hear it everyday. Tell her she looks pretty even when she isnt dressed up, often. Spend a night out with your friends and let her go out with hers so you dont get sick of each other and she doesnt feel controlled by you. Also stay on the good side of her friends and family. Be polite, pay for her when you go out on dates with her, and always walk her to the door or at least watch her go inside before you drive away.
2006-09-10 23:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it two years, in that time infatuationg will die out and you will know the person better, and you will learn a lot about yourself, too. And then the question will not only be if you want to grow old with this person, but if you want this person to be the mother of your children.
In the meantime, study, and go to college. Nothing ruins more a marriage than not having enough money to go thru life's challenges. And if you really love her, I'm sure you will feel great being a very good provider for her and pampering thru life, that gives men a lot of satisfaction.
2006-09-10 23:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by avll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a long relationship been married 16 years. I am no Dr.Phil. However, I do know it takes two for it to work. I am not going to tell you 17 is to young, think of alot of our grandparents that got married so young. Just take your time and enjoy life and not having to be responsible for paying alot of bills right now helps. Make sure you go to college because money always puts a bind on any relationship. Tell her how much you love her but don't smother her. If it's meant to be you will be together.
2006-09-10 23:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by Just wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a boyfriend at 18 and i married him at 25, it didn't work out after 13 years. so there is no assurance. but since you're willing to work on it, just love her, enjoy the moment while you can- pay attention to her, listen to eveything she says, be concerned about everything she's concerned with, don't ever take her for granted, be a man for her, flowers can do magic, and cards, and walks in the park, and taking her to sunsets and moonshines, and singing to her, all the little surprises and the simple things... and the "i love yous" in even the most unsuspecting places and time - just be there! girls would notice all these things and appreciate the effort that you do, you will think that you did all the works, but you reap all the benifits of a girl being loved well. good luck!
2006-09-10 23:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by maiax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy don't worry if you love her and she loves you. You all can make things happen. First thing you need to do is don't worry about marriage. There is plenty of time for that. You need to be able to provide for her for the rest of your lives. If you don't get some kind of education. It won't never happen. If you want to go too college. Find a college you both can go together. What ever you do don't go do something dumb like get married the day after highschool. If you all want or even think of marriage. Give it time til your 25 or financially
secure. It is a big bad strong world out there. Be prepared for what you are about to get into. Remember my friend good things happen to people who wait. In Florida where I live It takes over 2500 plus a month to be able to live in a half way decent place.
That is for one person. If you have to take care of a wife or girlfriend. Then add another 1500 a month for her. What I am talking about is women things/Doctor bills. Darn you probably didn't think about that. Don't let it worry you . That is what becoming a (man) /Adult. Bills Bills and more Bills. If you have a live in Parent go to them for advice. They couldn't have done to bad at raising a dumb son. Because you are one of the few of the younger generation that is smart enough to ask for advice. Just sit back and think before you react. You sound like a smart fella.
I think you will do all right in life. As long as you go slow, and think about what you want to do in life. One thing you want to do with your Girlfriend. Never give her a reason not to trust. Do't ever lie to her. If you ever have a problem with her talk to her about it. Talk to her not at her. Women like love and attention 24/7. Watch what you say to her at all times. Women always seem to take things you say to them the wrong way. Just give her your total attention. Like she is the only woman on the earth for you. Always help her do little things, even at her or her parents house. Do little things for her without her knowing like a flower at work or dinner at home. Love and affection will keep you all together for ever. Oh yes without total communication with her will end it with you two before a blink of an eye.
2006-09-11 00:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by David T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 26 yrs and my husband and I knew right from the start we were made for eachother. He told me on the second date he was going to marry me and when. We dated five years before we got married. You are very young and I am sure you know your feelings, just don't rush into anything. Go to college, experience life a little before you decide to settle down. You have your whole life ahead of you. Make sure of any decisions. If you two are really made for each other you will stand a test of time.
2006-09-10 23:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this seems like the one and I'm not saying she's not, but your only 17. You need to make sure before you do anything that your going into this not because your afraid to loose her, but because you truely want to be with her for the rest of you life. Sometimes at that age those two can be mistaking.
2006-09-10 23:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋