he ccan make me smile no matter what and i love him with all my heart but sometimes i wonder if we will be together and get married like we talk about doin because sometimes we arguee ALOT. How do I know if i really truely love him and if i want to stay with him ??
2006-09-10 16:33:10 · 12 answers · asked by nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you have to ask, then you are not.
2006-09-10 16:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult for the most mature adult much less a 17 year old to know if choosing to be with or stay with a partner for life is the right choice so you're certainly not alone there. The keys are to take it slow. If its true love then he's not going anywhere and neither are you so there should be no rush to marriage to somehow make the love or committment more legitimate or longlasting because it doesn't. To know if he's the right person to be your life patner you first have to know what you need from a life partner and that takes time and the input from people who know you and love you so don't be afraid to ask for and more importantly listen to advice and input from your parents, family, friends, pastor. My opinion is you are too young for marriage and that's not an insult to you. You are also too young to be the CEO of a corporation, buy a house, raise a child all by yourself or any number of things you haven't had the time to learn about. Just think, a mere 5 years ago you were only 12 and think how much you've changed in that time. Now imagine how much more you will learn and grow over the next 5 years, 10, 15 or 20. My point is you have plenty of time, your life has just begun. Give yourself a chance to live it before you make a decision as important as this.
2006-09-10 23:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 17. Enjoy it while it lasts, but recognize that as you both grow as individuals, there is a chance (and actually a very good chance) that you'll grow apart. And it's not because there's anything "wrong" with either of you or with your relationship... it's because you're 17 years old and are still progressing from being a teenager into being an adult. The person you are at 25 is often very different from the person you are at 17. The person you're attracted to at 25 is also often very different from the person you're attracted to at 17. And that's okay.
2006-09-11 00:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very young, but then I met my boyfriend of six years when I was 18. We have been through a lot, but it does make you stronger. My friend is marrying her boyfriend of ten years on Sat (someone she met at 17!), so I'm not saying its impossible to meet the love of your life at such a young age.
Here is my advice: Finish school, and decide what you want to do. If you want to go away to college, do it! You will regret not trying when you are older. Don't let his decisions influence yours. If he is really "the one," he will let you do what you want.
Be careful! If you haven't had sex yet, wait until you are both older. If you have, get birth control so you don't have a child until you are financially and mentally ready to do so.
Someone who truly loves you will repect who you are and who you want to be. If he does not do this, it will only get worse. I'm glad you're so happy now, but remember, there are a lot of guys out there!
2006-09-11 01:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself this question. What does love mean? You are still young, and you don't have to jump the gun on marriage right know. If you love him take the time to get to really know each other. Wanting to be with him forever is something you should know, not THINK you know.
2006-09-10 23:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by babgrl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off, listen to your heart, the quiet voice and not hour head, the loud voice. Do you love him? Why? make a list for your eyes only of the pros and cons to spending the rest of your life with him. Cross off what you can live with on the con side. Examine your list, do not pay attention to what side has the most. it is quality and not quantity that counts
good luck
2006-09-13 08:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how long you have known this person is the clue. lust comes into the picture first and this can last for a while. then reality hits and the two of you start to have an argument or two and that is when you start to see if the two of you are in love!
2006-09-10 23:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by patrick h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in school ? Do you have a career in the works for you? What are your goals? After you answer those questions you can see if Mr. Right is still around you will know if marriage is your true answer.
2006-09-11 00:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wondering if it'll ever happen is only natural. But at 17 your only realy worry should be finding yourself before joining your life with someone else. Find out who you are, then you'll see who he really is, if you still see the same person before you, then merry him, if not, ditch him.
2006-09-11 00:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by KrisLeigh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
o m g your 17 the only thing that lasts forever any more are your children...and im hoping you get what you want but be realistic
2006-09-10 23:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some people here. If you have to ask the question, then you are not ready.
2006-09-12 04:27:59 · answer #11 · answered by Guppy Fish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋