Female Partner Can't Reach Orgasm - Help Plz?

Question

Hi,

My partner and I are 19 and 17 respectively. When she was with her previoud BF she has sex 5 times and each time it hurt her alot and she never enjoyed it.

6 months we had been together and tried 3 times and sex hurt tremendously. We were going to see a doctor but she wanted to try a few more times which we did and we were able to have sex after more practice it started hurting less.

Unfortunately she cannot come to orgasm it no longer really hurts her but she cannot reach orgasm. We have achieved it 3 times but none since during sex. I am able to get her off other ways but not during sex.

Can anyone help us we don't think that it is my size or how long I partake in intercourse she enjoys it but it does not get her to orgasm..

Thankyou

Umm shoulda mentioned Using my tongue to get her off is easy. We attempt sex atleast 2 a week.

We have foreplay for generally an hour before sex and sex lasts generally another hour.

Can you help with any other suggestions. It does not hurt her any more except when I insert for the first minute and when I go right in as deep as I can which I do not do because I do not want to hurt her but I still go in 6-7 inches which should be far enough to make her orgasm?

We both want to fix this but she does not want to go to a doctor can anyone else help?

Again, she is not really into wanting to use sex toys or vibrators as I suggested she gives it a go. We do go really slow and try alot of different ways including her being on top and her choosing positions because we are bothin a very happy relationship.

We just want to also be able to enjoy sex because getting each other off is one sided... To a point and we would like to both be having fun at one and reaching climax.

Any help?

Answer 1

It is a goal to have orgasm at the same instant, but it may be too much to expect as it is quite rare. You can aspire to her having an orgasm during intercourse, but by intercourse alone, it is quite rare too. Intercourse combined with manual stimulation of the woman's clitoris, either by you or by her, is the typical way women orgasm during intercourse.

Relax your expectations, be less desperate about what you achieve and it will work better. Be happy you are in the same room, much less during the same instant. If you have your orgasms within a few minutes of each other, it is still gratifying, satisfying and can be a bonding experience for you.

Try lubricants for easing pain, continue to be gentle in the beginning. Depth is not as exciting for her as it is for you. Try different speeds, pressures motions and all combinations of them. There may be a pattern of slow circles with heavy pressure, then fast up and down rubbing with lighter pressure increasing as the sensation builds. Experiment, test things and use what works and discard things that don't.

Think of it like this. She isn't as excited by intercourse as she is stimulation of her clitoris. It is as if you were trying to have an orgasm by only rubbing your scrotum. Women like rubbing of multiple surfaces at a time, unlike men who only want one thing and only need one thing rubbed.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Never thought I would try to answer this one, but I've been around the block a few times...lol Honestly.... you could spend weeks hearing every technique out there....the problem is that sometimes both partners try TOO hard and it just doesn't happen. I've been lucky to have partners in the past that get there about 80% of the time....and sometimes it gets better as you get to know each other's like and dislikes...but there's one cheat that almost always works, and takes the edge off. A little vibrator can do wonders when combined with intercourse. Nothing major... Just a little pocket rocket... something very small. What is cool about it is that as long as you are open about it, she can control the speed and you can focus on just enjoying the experience. I can almost bet if you both can relax and you can hold out and take it S L O W, at least at first...she will get there really quick the first time and then some after that. It's true I think that every woman is built a little different, and you will be able to remove the vibrator after the pressure is off if you both like. Hope this helps :)

Answer 3

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Answer 4

people respond to sex in different ways. And different sex can produce different results. Sex in not just intercourse. Sex is sharing that act and feeling with someone else. Try to explore some other ways you can bring her to climax. Let her be in control sometimes. I find many woman like it on top and are able to climax this way. Try it out and explore other ways you can enjoy this experience together.

Answer 5

You need more foreplay. Try to have her come just using your tongue. Once you can achieve that, the rest should be easy.
You just might be going too fast. Foreplay or even fiveplay is the answer.

Answer 6

sometimes women just don't have the big O with it dude.6 months may not be long enough for her ,but i would see a doctor about it hurting .But remember it is NEW you have to break it in.

Answer 7

just keep doing it, eventually like it not hurting her it'll make her orgasm, it's just one of those things that takes repeated doing to make it happen