Are you Lost(in life) like me?

Question

I am 22, married, and starting a great career, but I feel lost. I feel like this isnt the life I am suppossed to be living. It is almost like I fell into some mold. I am proud of my acheivements and the things that I have accomplished. But this isnt me, I have become what others want to see.

I am still trying to figure out how I got to this point. Like I was myself one day and this person the next. But now I think I am in denial trying to convince myself that "this is it" this is what life is made of. I feel I am in so deep it's too late to turn it around.

I have set such a good example for my family, that if I try to be my true self I will truly dissapoint them.

I want to know are there any others that feel lost like me? And if so how do you cope with it?

wrathofkubla.. Your answer is perfect. That is how I am feeling and I cant even begin to explain to others why.

Fantastic answer!

Answer 1

Yeah, lalala, I feel lost too.

I'm glad you asked because you have successes so it'd seem like you should be content with your lot.

My story is as simple: I have a fantastic job, enough money to buy almost anything I want within reason, I've been published and contributed to society. And I don't have a single friend who will come over and watch a football game with me! Where did I get to the point where I couldn't keep a friend?

Coping -- killing time I guess, waiting for something to change somehow. Sometimes I feel like people don't even understand what I am saying to them in a conversation, the words are there but the language is different.

Answer 2

You have to be your true self... if you are not, living becomes a lie...you can just feel it in your heart.
that being said, How can you be at odds with who you are at this very second? You sound like a thoughtful person. Do you have a base of good faith and a heartfelt belief that you are exactly where you are supposed to be... every moment of everyday? I believe that just to be here is an honor & every being we come in contact with is either supporting us or being supported by us... have faith. You are on the right path because of your honorable intentions& examples. I am 45 & still wonder sometimes but I rarely have to make myself stop & sit & take stock , any more, of what I have, now & Know I am truly lucky to have all of the chaos & order that I have fought so hard to have in my life up to this point. This is it. No do overs

Answer 3

It is ironic that I came across your question tonight. I am 28, and have just finished ...well, I don't know that I am done...CRYING..because I feel so lost as well.

I moved back in with my parents about 6 months ago..something that I never thought would happen. So many times in my life I though I had the job I wanted, or was living with a boyfriend that I thought I'd marry eventually...none of these things ever worked out. Tonight I came home from my boyfriend's house to a note from my parents saying that I have no goals and don't respect them the way that I should. I feel as though I am trying the best I can, and am just having trouble finding my way. Sometimes it seems I'll never figure it out. I can tell you the one thing that helps me is knowing that God loves me and has a plan for my life, I just can't seem to figure out what that plan is. I miss my boyfriend, he is the only other thing that keeps me sane (if you can call it that) but I know moving in with him would not be the right thing to do. I feel so much pressure to do good...that it just paralyzes me and I can't do much at all. You are not alone. I feel your frustration, and I hope that it works out good for both of us. My best to you..hang in there.

Answer 4

O course, everyone gets depressed at times but in your case it sounds like a situation where you were thinking of everyone Else's wants and not your own and now after doing what you thought was right, you have yourself in a corner and don't know how to find your freedom. Well, first I think you discuse this with your new husband after all this will affect his happiness and future as mush as it does yours. And talk to your mother, you maybe surprised how she may really understand. And remember your are young and life has a way of changing everyday so try to find the best of each day. You should be grateful that you have a family who you care enough about to worry about their wants and needs. Many people don't have this. And your husband must love you are he would not have married you in the first place so just TALK and the best of luck to you.

Answer 5

Thats terrible! Do you love your life?

If you could go back what would you change? Would you still get married?

How different to the life you are living now, is the life you want to have?

In my mind, why be someone else? You are you, and people must learn to love that!

If you were 80 years old on your death bed (God Forbid), would you regret everything you have done in your life? Or would you want to smile, knowing that you have lived your life, your own way and did the best job you could?

This is an excellent question.

Answer 6

If you feel lost, find your true self. I don't feel the same, and haven't ever, but I feel for you. You need to quit caring what others think of you, and be you. Talk with your husband about it, and you could go to some therapy together and talk through this new transition you need to go through.
Possibly maybe you should find a church or a place of worship where you could find YOURSELF with the help of some loving people, and most of all GOD. He can fix the broken, heal the wounded, and love the hated. He is what you need.

Good luck.

Answer 7

WHAT IS the life you are supposed to be living?
how different from this one is it?
what would you be doing different?
and how can you start to incorporate what makes you truley happy with what keeps you going?
I hope you find your happiness

Answer 8

maybe you need religion in your life

yes i think we all feel a little lost at times

Answer 9

I'm right there with you .

Answer 10

I am definatly there with you.