my b/friend thought of havin sex wit someone else. is this cheating and am i right 2 still feel hurt?

Question

it happened a year ago but i still have a hard time trusting him

Answer 1

You have every right to feel hurt by that Especially if he told you about it. Most of the time i wouldn't consider thoughts about sex with other people to be cheating but if you know about it and it has hurt you so badly then yes i would say so. If he didn't actually have sex with this other person than you're lucky but trust is of course a hard thing to regain. I had an ex who was constantly thinking about cheating and i found out he actually did cheat and it broke my heart. I had dated him the whole time without knowing. And now of course i always feel like he's going to cheat. My experience is that if a guy thinks about it once he will think about it again. Be careful

Answer 2

Yes, you have a right to feel hurt, and I can see where the trust issue is coming from. But remember, he didn't actually do it. Probably because he loves and respects you. I don't think he should have told you that he had that thought, but you should take some comfort in the fact that even given the opportunity, he was faithfull. However, if you can't get past it, you should probably leave for both of your sakes. You don't want to be tied to someone you don't trust and its not fair for him to have to keep "paying" for somethine he didn't even do.

Answer 3

This is normal, what I wonder is why you never have a thought like that? Most young single people wonder what it would be like to be with different people. Depending on how old you are you should be doing that too! The time when a person is single and young is short, make the most of it! 50% of people choose the wrong person, we could use more people who thought about being with other people before stepping on the treadmill to marriage!

Answer 4

What do you mean by though. Did he ask her or you? or was it just a though like I sometimes have have thoughs about quiting my job but I'm going to quit it. Guys think about having sex with almost every girl they see. But if he was seriously thinking about it maybe you can't trust him. But he did not sleep with her correct? So maybe you can trust him. I am a little mixed up. Sorry hope this helped at all.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

It really is cheating. It's right to get hurt. I guess you'll just have to think again on whether you want him as a boyfriend. It is not easy to forget such incidents. Ask yourself how he is treating you now. Or rather, would you want to live a life with this problem bugging you all the time? If not, just carry on with your life.

Answer 7

In my opinion, I would consider that cheating, but you might not. If you still don't trust him, you must have a reason not to, so let go of him.

Answer 8

trust and communition come first in any relationship..........if you boyfriend has thought of having sex with someone else then that means its only a fantansy of his....but like most guys they do take their fanstanies with them and act on it....its not right...so yes that would be cheating on you....Does he watch porn when you have had sex? if so then he wants his fantansies and its not worth your time of day with dumb *** anymore .....move on........yes you have every right to feel hurt......dumb his *** kick him the curb and move one he sounds like a real jerk and worthless and kind of sounds like he is going be lazy if not already.

Answer 9

no its not cheating..thinking about having sex with someone else is normal
and your still on about this after a year...get over it you are being way to sensative

Answer 10

My question is did he tell you he thought about cheating to show what a "great" guy he is for not doing it, ot did he tell you so you'd feel insecure so he could control you easier. Interesting to think about.......