i have a friend who had a bf who she loved and who loved her very much. However, she recently had to move away to another country bc she is still only 17 and living with her parents and her parents had to move for business purposes. She is coming back home for college next year tho. She had been dating this guy for 5 months but 3 of those months have been long distance....and they thought that they would be seeing each other this fall but it turns out that they wont be able to.....only next year.The thing is....her bf said he wanted to wait for her bc he really loves her.....and so she said she would wait for him too cuz she loves him alot too. However, about 3 weeks later....he told her he needed to take a break, that the pain was just 2 much 2 bear and that e was weak and couldnt handle her not being there with him for soo long. My frend now has been having doubts....she thinks that if he really loved her he would wait for her and bear the pain.
2006-09-10 16:02:55 · 12 answers · asked by liza S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I told her that this is highly unrealistic....besides....he says that he still wants to be friends with her and that he wants to continue their relationship once she gets back home....so....is it true that if u really loved someone u would wait a long time for them? or is it possible to love somebody so much that u have to break up with them cuz the pain of them not being there is just too much?
2006-09-10 16:06:06 · update #1
So what is your question? AND you are in college? Then you should be able to write a MUCH better sentence.
2006-09-10 16:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think the guy is telling the truth, if he cared for her than there wouldn't be pain, now if he was lusting for her during the time they spent than not seeing her would be wierd but if he truly cared for here than he shouldn't, he prob wants to move on and see other people, or already has been and that is why he said he wants to take a break
now on to the second portion of this, i by no means am trying to call your friend a liar, but i find it difficult to say you love someone after 3 months let alone at the age of seventeen, i'm willing to bet that your friend said it because she wanted to feel something special and that her boyfriend said it back to stay in her pants, i have a feeling that the guy is not being geniune, granted i have a good chance of being wrong because i've never met the guy, but i still have a feeling something is amiss
2006-09-10 23:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are freakin' children, playing "adult", what a crock of a crap. It's time they broke up and accepted it as part of life. There is absolutely no chance those two would marry and wind up together in 10 years anyway, so why bother wasting your life and being sad over something that every teenie bopper goes through? Teenagers don't know the first thing about love or commitment--you can't drink, smoke, or vote--what makes you think you can play adult in the bedroom with the opposite sex? Too young.
2006-09-10 23:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by surfinthedesert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably did really love her but they are 17 years old and have a lot of growing to do. To be apart for over a year would be tough and he might have met someone new. If your friend really loves her boyfriend, she would understand and want him to be happy...not be in pain missing her. She should go and live her life too. They are both so young and there is plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-09-10 23:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Carlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should just say "let's be friends" and move on. If circumstances bring them back together someday, great. There's a story circulating that Russell Crowe fell in love with his wife (and vice versa) when they made a movie together years ago but Russell wasn't ready to settle down so each went their own way and had other relationships but, in the end, the wound up together.
2006-09-10 23:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is right if he really loved her like he said he did he would wait but he's young and it has to be hard on him and her they both should be enjoying their lives and having fun you're only 17 once
2006-09-10 23:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both too young for an exclusive relationship. The only way to know about human nature is to meet as many people as you can. You can't do that if you are tied to one person. If they don't date others, they will resent and regret it later. That's just how it is.
2006-09-10 23:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience
2006-09-10 23:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your young and should look at other options relationship shouldnt feel stressful and you will see a many things in your life dont be so hard on life and just move on and love yourself because your feelings matter
2006-09-10 23:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by firered 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is such a hard thing to do (wait), sometimes people say they will but when you see all your mates with their girlfriends all cuddly and kissy it gets depressing, if he loved her he will be there when she gets back and if she loves him she will accept it and let him go (just till she gets back)
2006-09-10 23:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋