I am frustrated, having had 3 children of my own, who are no longer in our hme I never thought this was going to be a problem. She thinks I am her real mom, so that is not the issue. But she is obstinent, lies, acts sneaky, is defiant, plays emotional games between my husband and I....I am growing extremely frustrated. No matter what punishment form I have tried nothing has worked, and trust me I have tried many. Anyone wanna give me some suggestions? Her biological mother is in the process of getting clean and sober and will get visits eventually if she continues to be sober, this child believes I am her mother, although we try to be honest with her, I think she is too young to explain it all to. But that really isn't the issue anyway. It is her behavior. In front of others, she makes me look like an ogre. She just refuses to follow the rules we have laid down and at times her father does not back me up. Sometimes I wonder if I don't expect too much from her. I don't know.
2006-09-10 15:52:44 · 9 answers · asked by sassykellie19662006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Then treat her like your own daughter..You are the parent whether step or biological you call the shots she doesn't !!! You tell her what she is to do and if she does not do it then punish her...Ground her , take away her TV or Computer and make her realize that you will not be treated like that and she will obey you...After a while she will see that you mean business and tell your husband that he needs to back you up or she will not listen to you at all..
2006-09-10 19:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is only 3 years old,the only thing I know that works is time out and naps.It takes time for them to learn socially acceptable behavior so you have to be consistant.But if she's a toddler,playing emotional games is a little advanced,I would guess she's testing you to the max and you must be firm in setting the bounderies.Kids feel more secure when you do that and will begin to act better.Also praise her when she does do good.
2006-09-10 23:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and you need to be on the same exact page. She should NOT witness you and him arguing over what you and he differ about when it comes to her. She must think you have his full support and he has yours on her antics. (even if you disagree). Part of her behavior is her age itself but she can learn by your responses how to manipulate you...and her father and pit you against each other. Child psychologist/pediatrician is not a bad start. Good luck. Don't let her continue on this path or it will be a long long road to age 18!
2006-09-10 23:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by tiquern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I read right the child is 3...she is going to act this way until she realizes whats excepted and what isn't. You and your husband need to come up with a form of disicpline and stick too. Not everything works right away, but when she realizes she can't get away with things, it will slowly stop. Good luck!
2006-09-10 22:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know when i was younger my stepfather always tried to tell me what to do and i didnt listen because who was he to tell me what to do i know u said that the biological thing is not the issue but later in life it will be...however i dont think ur asking too much kids at any age need to learn responsibility....also if her dad just lets everything slide what does that make her think about u ....ur there to clean up after her and not to punish her he needs to do something or this girl no matter the age will walk all over you....GOOD LUCK
2006-09-10 23:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by ~jessi~ aka....mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt consider this child to be a brat.....she is just going through the stages. Her father Needs to be consistant with the rules that you lay down.,..if he doesnt then it will only confuse her even more.....She is only 3 give her time
2006-09-10 23:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her father needs to back you up. If your handing out the discipline her daddy needs to be there to confirm it. Don't let this little girl get the best of you. Right now she is controlling you and you need to stop it. have her father hand out the punishment.
2006-09-10 22:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by late_sleeper35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call supernanny! or get her into see a counselor sounds like she dont want you around and wants all her daddys attention and is doing anything and everything to get him out of there! who knows never had that problem! she also might have ADD ADHD or be autistic! Consult her peditrician!
2006-09-10 22:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by Just_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is this little brat?
2006-09-10 22:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋