I am getting married in two weeks and I have no clue to what I should give the minister who is marrying my fiance and I. I heard of a couple that married in that same church 6 years ago with the same minister and they donated $100. I would think we should donate a little more then that but how much more is enough?
2006-09-10 15:47:06 · 25 answers · asked by millington550 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think $200 if you can afford it, if not give what you can.
Tithe is 10% of your income, but you are giving the minister a gift for his time and effort. He is working for you and would most likely rather be at home with his family! Be as generous as you can.
2006-09-10 15:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends. Think about it this way. A lot of ministers like myself, would take time to give you pre-marital counseling. I have a fee schedule for that, however, if it is a young couple who are just trying to get married, I donate my services in most cases, tell the groom to put something in an envelop and give it to my wife for lending me to them for the day. My five children have to eat to.
This is what you need to consider. If you are spending $5000.00 - $25,000.00 on the wedding, which is the day; let me explain. People spend $500 - $800.00 in flowers alone, $200.00 - $500.00 on Limo's, $3000.00 - $10,000.00 on honeymoons, $500.00 - $3000.00 on the wedding dress, $700.00 - $3000.00 on catering. I've even seen a $1500.00 cake. If you are spending this type of money for the day, then it is an insult to give the minister $100.00. You don't need any of those things to get married, but you do need someone to perform the service. So I would not go traditional, I would say if you can afford a $10K, the preacher should get no less than $500.00.
My rates are $300.00 which includes 4 pre-marital counseling sessions, thirteen weeks of financial counseling, the rehearsal and the wedding. If the bride and groom are trying to have a nice wedding on a budget, I often donate my services. Did I mention that my time is valuable and I help people with life skills, not just frills for the day.
On average, the basic wedding package I give consists of about 42 hours on my time. That is about $7.14 an hour. It is probably the best bargain one can get. If a couple is spending over $1000.00 on a wedding, they will pay me.
I don't know why people think ministers get a discount at the grocery store.
***Church members are generally no charge at all, so it pays to be connected.
2006-09-10 23:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The minister is performing a professional service, for which he does not get paid by the church. Pay accordingly.
Not less that $250 ( consider that he has to be there for the rehearsal, and the wedding, and perhaps the reception; his entire week-end is shot, and he has to get his suit cleaned. Be generous.
PS. Grooms father usually pays the minister, ( if parents are ante-ing up for this) but make sure he agrees, and to an appropriate amount.
2006-09-10 22:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends....do you have to pay the organist a specfic fee? Do you have to pay for the cleaning of the church? If so...a $100 would be fine for the minister. If those things are not included...then I would give $150 to $200.
2006-09-10 22:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Dorothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the minister isn't asking for money, which has become standard, I would guess that any amount would be considered generous. I would think that the $200 mark is good, as that's what many couples we know are being asked to pay.
2006-09-10 22:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we got married I gave the minister $200. He had to drive a distance
2006-09-10 22:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by hipergirl22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
150 200 250
2006-09-10 22:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by cutegrl1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
$100 is resonable but remember most minister get paid beside what you you give them. Really depend on the your circumstance, how well you know him, and whether you give regular to his church that pay his salary...The less you have to do with him the more I would think about giving to him. The more you have to do with him the less, unless he need the money more than you...
2006-09-10 22:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, this may sound dumb but the whole tithing thing, 10% to the church, why not 10% of the cost of the wedding? unless it gets outrageous, who knows? but if u think 100 is not enough, maybe 150 or 200. i think you already have a number in mind that sounds right to you,. maybe you should just go with your gut feeling.
2006-09-10 22:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by bad kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most churches charge anywhere from 100 to 200 dollars.
2006-09-10 22:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Cocoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋