We were together for a month after 1 week we met. He treats me nicely n gentlely. But he dun call or see me often, dun feel like he cares for me. I told him how i felt but he cant take it and wanted to hold back. We are now together again after talking in front of his sister (as he cant make decision by himself whether to continue the relationship). Since that, we are like normal friends, chatting on the phone and no dates. I felt that he actually wants someone to care for him and listen to his problems. Is he really serious about me? What kind of person he is? He said he cares for me but just dunno how to express his feelings? Shld i believe that? What shld i do? Pls help!!!
2006-09-10 15:35:54 · 12 answers · asked by landy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you really commit to anyone, be really sure how you feel towards that person.
Your pal seems like his sincere about his feelings and may have fallen in love with you, maybe he doesnt know how to effectively express himself... There are people like this and they are sensitive souls - nothing wrong with this unless you like your partner to be someone with more expressive nature.
But if you really love him, give the 2 of you a chance, who knows if beautiful things will develop out of this. Good luck
2006-09-10 16:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by annmohdali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well... you really want a long-term relationship with him then this thing has gotta get resolved. The thing is, you have different values and concerns. You want him to show you he cares about you so you can be assured that he really likes you while he seems to be trying to hide because he says he doesn't know how to express his feelings. And has he told you why?
The fact is, if it takes something like a talk in front of his sister in order to help him decide whether to continue the relationship, then you gotta start thinking long term. No doubt you have been patient with him but can you think of how excruciating it would be to have to go through cycles of indecision and major productions just to get him to decide? It just doesn't fit as of now. Best to stay friends for now and understand him a little better before committing rather than push for a relationship which could potentially harm your future chances.
2006-09-10 15:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by Nadz U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 01:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have been together for only a month and already he is not sure whether he wants relationships with u? wake up girl. duering first few months he should be totally in love with u offering u mountains of gold and stars from sky. and here u re - pressuring him to take u with all your love. im sorry, u seem very very how can i put it in correct way? not smart softly speaking. u should stop pressuring men into relationships with u, have maybe long period on your own when u think about u and your life and after maybe u willk find a volunteer to go into relationships with u. maybe
2006-09-10 18:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you havn't been together long, its still early days, cut him some slack,how old are you both? how far have you gone into the relationship? look at all these factors then decide what YOU want to do and act on it, IF you want to keep him YOU will find a way
2006-09-10 16:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by charles.asharman@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand how you felt, he may have a broken relationship in the past and that's why he is afraid of committing to you. just let things develop naturally and not rush into things. alot of relationship begins at the friend to friend level.
2006-09-10 15:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really love him, then always stand by him ... even in his hard days. But make urself strong enough if u come 2 know abt his girlfrnd, then plz don't give up...
2006-09-10 16:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Innocence Redefined 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you seem too pushy for a start and he don't really want to get that involved now does he.
2006-09-11 01:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he isn't ready for a girlfriend. I think he just wants to be your friend.
2006-09-10 15:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,that don't mean he want 2 be ur bf,he could mean he want to be ur bestfriend
2006-09-10 15:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋