2006-09-10 15:24:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
How old is the child? Are you trying to get them to follow directions or stop doing something they should not be doing?
i have worked with many children who have been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD. I usually try to get down on their level and have them look me in the eye, then I make what i have to say very short, then I try to get them to repeat the gist of what I have said. Usually it works sometimes I have to do it more then once.
2006-09-10 15:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by paganmom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My ADHD son required visualization. So often when we communicate, we don't actually look at each other. When you speak,make sure you have eye-to-eye with him. Also, because of the condition, he likely also needs for you to hold his hands in front of him while you speak. If I knelt on my knees when my son was younger, this also made him stop quicker. These are all little tricks. You are learning to deal with him instead of trying to change him, which you can't.
You don't mention how old your son is or if you have made the leap to medication. However nothing can replace a good consult with a knoweldgeable health professional. And then you should consult another. Lots of people have different opinions about how ADHD should be handled. You may find, as I did, that no one knows you child better than you. You shouldn't foget that.
When we finally made the decision to medicate (age 4), we felt it was a decision for the betterment of my son. He would need help in school and, in fact, he did. It's been a long strecth, but my son is mainstreamed and is not being resourced as he had been, and is now a junior in high school. Without the medication he'd not be there now, I'm sure.
Good luck.
2006-09-10 15:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by paly33 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My nephew has extreme ADHD and also has Asbergers. He started school last year and what the special ed program is teaching her to do with him is to get down and then have him look at her face, then talk to him. The other suggestion they gave her about it is to use cards with pictures or words on them for things, she has made small cards with pictures of food on them for meals, stop for places he isn't allowed to go, no climbing signs, etc. They told her kids respond quicker to visual things then they do to hearing it. This is definitely not a behavior issue, he is actually a very well behaved child, they have trouble going from one thing to another and so they have trouble going from a task to listening to you.
2006-09-10 16:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by curls 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WHEN YOU ASK THEM A QUESTION HAVE THEM REPEAT IT BACK TO YOU. MY SON HAS HAD ADHD SINCE HE WAS 5 AND NOW HE IS 19 YRS.OLD. THEY FORGET VERY EASILY SO YOU HAVE TO GET ON THEM ALL THE TIME. LOOK UP SOME WEBSITES ABOUT ADD OR ADHD THEY WILL HELP YOU A LOT GOOD LUCK I KNOW HOW IT IS WITH A CHILD WITH ADHD IT'S NOT EASY RAISING THEM.
2006-09-10 15:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the child is refusing to listen then they're just being a brat. I've worked with plenty of ADHD children and none of them had a problem with listening. They simply had a problem keeping on task or they became easily frustrated. Sometimes they had trouble sitting still but other than that they're like any other kid. Don't let the ADHD be an excuse for bratty behavior.
2006-09-10 15:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
You slow down and you only tell them them ONE thing at a time. They cannot multi-task. I work with a lot of ADHD children and one of the best resources we have is a book Parenting with Love and Logic. They have another just for children who have behavioral issues and it is called Meeting the Challenge. I found it on amazon.com
2006-09-10 15:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This trick seems to work with every kid, get down on your hands and knees so that you are on their level. Then calmly look them in the eyes and let them talk to you, don't yell at them, just have a calm conversation. Then when they're done telling you the reasons why they did something then you tell them why they shouldn't do it. Not in a mean way. Like this.
Example:
parent: Jared! Why did you do that?
Jared: I don't want them to play with my toys! They're mine!
parent: Jared hun, they're everybodies toys. Why don't we all sit down together and play with them?
Jared: But they're mine!
parent: They're everybodies okay? So why don't we just share okay?
Sooner or later he'll get the hint, it usually only takes three or four times of being stern.
2006-09-10 15:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Severe, unrelenting beatings. Beatings that cause you to become faint with exhaustion, beatings that tire you so much that you have to switch which arm you are using to hit the child. Beatings that your neighbor can hear over their television set, beatings that will make the child question the existence of god. Salvo after salvo of beatings combined with mouth frothing screams of anger. Why? Because there is no such thing as ADHD, it is merely a product of insufficent and lazy parenting.
2006-09-10 15:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by thehotdogbun 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Stop yelling, get to his eye level, speak clearly and calmly and maintain eye contact.
2006-09-12 18:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not yell. When you want him to listen, get down to his level, and speak clearly... Once you yell, he wont hear a word you say.
2006-09-10 15:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋