so i used to really like this guy, but then i realized that he is shallow and only cares about what people are on the outside. he acts so fake, and it really makes me mad. i used to think that he liked me too, because he'd be looking at me a lot, and he still does it. but then i realized that he's popular, and i'm not that social, meaning i don't hang out with the popular squad. last year i thought that he liked me, since he figured out my name without me telling him. i thought i liked him this year, but i've realized that i probably don't. we have a class together and there's 3 popular girls in it from his group. he didn't even say hi to me this year and doesn't talk to me. but when those girls aren't looking, i can see him looking at me. i'm not really sure what he wants right now. what should i do?
2006-09-10 15:14:38 · 28 answers · asked by Maria18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see two possibilities here.
1) He likes you, but isn't willing to jeopardize his standing with the "in" crowd to be with you openly. If this is the case, why would you waste so much emotional energy on someone who is ashamed of you?
2) He likes the way you look -- which is why he keeps looking -- but isn't interested in anything serious with you. He might be interested in sex, but that's about it. I hope I don't have to explain what a bad situation this is.
Either way, your best option is to forget this guy and find someone else -- preferably a guy who likes you for you, and not for how cool he looks standing next to you.
2006-09-10 15:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see umm...for starters he's probably just checking out your body. Doesn't mean he likes you. So could you tell me why any of this matters since he "acts so fake" and it "really makes you mad?" Not to mention the fact he wants nothing to do with you until the popular girls are gone. Why mess with him?
2006-09-10 22:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Frank P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to just keep doing what you are doing and if he really likes you he will come around sometimes the popularity thing is not all its cracked up to be.. if someone likes you they will like you for who you are and now what u are on the outside.. just do what you been doing and see how things work out :)
2006-09-10 22:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by ~*~ Stormy Weather~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's straightly a fantasy. Sounds like you have a crush on him which he noticed but he want your approach. It's all a game at your age. Don't take it serious, if he's a good looking popular guy, he just wants to show off in front of girls. Every girl thinks they might win his heart.
It's you call whether you want to join the race. I'd move on to another target--low profile one.
2006-09-10 22:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl raise your self above him ..if he looks at you ,say it loud enough for others to hear: "what are you starring at perv." ..
if he says something stupid , and I know he will , be ready , you say: " not in your wildest dreams " and walk away ..you will most likely leave him defending his honor in front of other people ,mostly girls hopefully . keep him off balance and don't loose your calm .. he will back off . and the more stupid things he says , the stupider he will look .. he will try to gather allies by telling untruths because you bruised his ego .. stand firm and don't retreat .. calmly tell his closest Buddy's his smallest body part .. you can win this .. but don't start something you can't finish .. pick your battles and know and own your enemy...
Joe ex school bully
2006-09-10 22:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's shallow. It sounds like he is only interested in you when the "popular" group isn't around. He's a loser.
2006-09-10 22:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's checking you out, being the shallow person you're complaining he is. So maybe after a year of obsessing over him, you should just ignore him.
2006-09-10 22:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should ask him: why do u keep looking at me? but first ask yourself why do u keep paying attention to him? do u like him? do u think he has a crush on u? just becuz hes popular he cant like u. u can become popular too! i mean..... u should find out this question WHY DOES HE KEEP LOOKING AT YOU? aske him thats what i can say! Good luck!
2006-09-10 22:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need to ask? He's a jerk; forget him! He's just looking at you because he hasn't got all he wants out of you yet, don't be taken advantage of by this guy just because he's popular.
2006-09-10 22:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by grenworthshero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is 6 years old and in elementary school.If he isn't man enough to tell you how he feels,you should just move on and forget he ever existed.Mind games are for the immature.
2006-09-10 22:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋