i am bisexual. i had a fight with my fiance. i didnt know what was going on. in the meantime, my ex and i made up and started new. now i am stuck because my fiance came back to me. i am clueless. i want to be with my ex, but i really dont want to hurt him. what should i do?
2006-09-10 15:08:08 · 22 answers · asked by mad dog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should be with the one you heart tells you to be with. If you do this for him then you are going to be living a lie. People always tell you to put others first...but when it comes to a life long decision you need to put yourself first! You have to be honest... or your heart will never let you forget what could have been. Best of luck!
2006-09-10 15:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question, what would hurt your fiance more, you saying that you couldn't marry because you loved someone else, or you marrying your fiance, but you not being happy? I'd wager that the latter would be more painful. In addition, the fact that you love another could put strain on your relationship, resulting in a turbulent marriage. I'd say that it is better to tell the truth and get it over with. The longer you wait, the more painful it will be for both you and your fiance.
2006-09-10 22:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by dragonking862003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your ex? Do you love your fiance? Make sure you don't get love confused with infatuation. But if you're sure you want to be back with your ex, gently break things up with your fiance. It'll be an akward situation, but if you keep your head through it all and you'll do just fine.
2006-09-10 22:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go be with your ex then, you say you don't want to hurt him but what happens if you marry and then you cheat on him with your ex, you'll end up hurting him even more. If your in love with someone else you should be with them because these feelings probably won't go away. Good Luck
2006-09-10 22:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by horrorfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the consequences. You should be frank to your fiance. I hope nothing bad will happen because it sounds like a twisted relationship.
You must end one or the other relationship. Be smart, can't get the best from both worlds.
2006-09-10 22:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds harsh but don't put someone else's happiness before your's because eventually the truth will come out. It will hurt him yes, but it's better now than when you to are married. Just think about what you really need right now. You might WANT to be with your ex but do you NEED him? Think about that.
2006-09-10 22:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by sherrlulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a few days and think about who you really and truely love, then go with that person. If it turns out that it isn't your fiance, there is no way to tell someone you don't love them without hurting them.
2006-09-10 22:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I once heard from a very wise person that it is better for someone to not date you than to date you and not like you. So just go for the one you love and don't worry about hurting anyone because it is more painful for someone to know that you are cheating than just for you to leave them. Hope this helped.
2006-09-10 22:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by katelynndabomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound as though you are stuggling with your maturity. You need to get right with yourself and your fiance before you proceed. Expect your fiance to dump you, then hopefully you will learn from your experience and move ahead in a more level headed manner BEFORE you get more deeply involved with your ex WHO YOU SHOULDN't be seeing until you figure yourself out first.
2006-09-10 22:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're clueless?
Your fiance marrying a bisexual, now she defines clueless.
2006-09-10 22:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋