Ever since people found out I told my daughter to drop out of school to take care of my son, I can't believe how many people have got on my case about it saying I am a bad parent. I'm beginning to wonder if I live in a screwed up town. Sure it bothers me, but what really bothers me is when they tell my daughter than I am a bad parent and try to get her to go against her father. She is a good girl and wants to make her dad happy, plus I don't think she really liked school anyway. I mean I let her go to school for 10 years plus kindergaten. I feel like she has enough education and now it is time for her to take care of my 3 year old son. I mean just for a few years is all I need and then she can marry and have a man support her. I am a single dad and its not like I can take care of him. Plus, raising kids is a woman's job. I am hoping I will have some people say I did the right thing because I'm getting so much negativity I'm beginning to doubt my own decision...its unreal
2006-09-10 14:58:13 · 22 answers · asked by Sandstorm222 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I completely agree with you. School is not necessary for girls. As long as she can add and subtract well enough to keep the checking account straight, and read well enough to go grocery shopping she's fine. And the practice of babysitting your son will pay off in a few years when she starts her own family. It's not as if an education is useful if she's going to be barefoot and pregnant most of the time anyway. Women need men to show them the correct way life should be and it sounds like you're doing a great job with your daughter. Keep up the good work and ignore the naysayers!
P.S. I'm joking and I hope you are too.
2006-09-10 15:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are nuts on many fronts.
A 16 year old needs an education if they are ever going to survive in today's world. Even just a high school diploma is better than nothing. A college diploma doesn't even guarantee a decent job any more. Minimum wage doesn't pay the bills - unskilled workers are a dime a dozen and you can't get a decent paying automaker job that doesn't require some sort of degree - there are too many unskilled laborers for the number of jobs, unless you don't aspire to anything more than minimum wage.
"Raising kids is a woman's job" - what planet are you from? Raising kids is a PARENTS job - not gender specific.
"She can marry and have a man support her". Now, that comment is so out in left field that I almost cannot believe it. What if that event never happens? What if it does, but he dies or becomes disabled and she has to go to work? What if he decides to leave her and she is forced to work to support herself? What if this financial supporter is an abuser? Should she stay with him simply because she doesn't have the skills to support herself?
Do you REALLY want to raise a daughter who is unable to take care of herself if she needs to? I know that I sure don't want my daughter to have to be financially reliant on someone else. You are shortchanging her future with absolutely no thought as to the ultimate consequences to her.
2006-09-10 22:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, it is not just a women's job to take care of a child. A child needs nurturing for both parents, and how dare you screw up your daughters life by making her drop out. The only person I pity in this situation is your daughter and son! You should be ashamed of yourself. Your town isn't screwed up, you are! She needs a good education and she certainly does not need a man's support. This is discrimination! You are a horrible father! I hope somebody calls social services on you and get your children out of that hell whole! All teenagers hate school! I can't believe men still think like this! Why are you ruining your daughter's life?
2006-09-10 22:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is a serious question, then you are, without question, an idiot. This is 2006, not 1906. Women cannot, and should not count on getting married so that they can have a husband to support them. She needs AT LEAST a high school education to get ANY kind of a job in the world. Would you marry her off the first oaf to come along and then have her be abused, go through a divorce, and now she is alone, has a kid or 6, and NO PROSPECTS for a good job or a decent husband.
Sound like YOU need to go back to school
2006-09-10 22:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You sound very convinced that you are doing the right thing. But, I have to disagree strongly with you. Your daughter is a person, too. Her future is pending on what you are making her do. It is so unfair of you to drag her out of school and take care of your son. Yes, you may be a single father, get a daycare and take your son there. If that is not an option, apply for daycare assistance in your county.
Raising kids is the parents job, not the womans job and not your daughters job. And, your daughter is a child yet. Let her grow up and experience her own life, and choose her own identity.
i can see that you are convinced you are doing the right thing, but I so disagree with you. You are not letting your daughter have a chance at growing up.
Shame on you.
2006-09-10 22:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by rach_cast 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, it's not a womans job to take care of kids, it's parents jobs! If you couldn't take care of them, than you shouldn't have been immature enough to have unprotected sex, or even sex at all!
You are being extremely selfish! Education is the most important thing in a childs life and you have taken that away from her! No woman needs to grow up think...I'll just marry to have a guy take care of me! Thats BS!!!!
You need to rethink what you have done and get your daughter back in school. Better yet, find a better parent for your children!
2006-09-10 22:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a bad parent. You need to get your act together. Your daughter should be in school. Getting married and having some other man take care of her is no answer and not having a diploma is going to hold her back. She needs to go back to school and now. As for the son, you should not be fathering children if you cannot care for them. See if there is another family member (an adult) who would be willing to adopt your son from you. If you are adverse to that look into other options and there are a lot of other options. But you need to give that boy up to someone else and maybe your daughter as well since you are incapable of caring for them.
2006-09-10 22:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
WTF???
She is a child... She is 16 and needs an education. She needs to at least finish high school. A high school education alone isn't enough in today's economy.
Don't you want your daughter to be independent, what happens if she gets married they guy is a wife beater or he dies???? SHE NEEDS TO BE INDEPENDENT.
Raising kids is not a woman's job. My father raised me from 9 on up. My mother walked out on us and my dad was physically ill but he did the best he could...
In addition, my husband and I have a 11 month old daughter. We both work from home but their are times when I am out meeting clients or at conferences that he is with my daughter. He also takes care of her while I am working
WHY DO YOU HAVE CUSTODY IF YOU CAN'T CARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN????
2006-09-10 22:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
LIAR FOLKS!!!! BOARD TROLL ALERT!!!!
First off after reading all of your questions, it is pretty obvious that you make all of this crap up on here because somehow you think you are clever and funny and need the attention. In several questions your so called daughter is 12 lol. Grow up!
In yet a another question you are 27 and single with a 24 year old girlfriend. lol In another question your daughter is 18. In another question you were going to marry your cousin.
What do you get out of lies on here and baiting people with totally false made up crap stories??? Pretty pathetic and lame!!!
You may be fooling some people, but really how pointless and lame is that? You are just some bored and not very clever or funny teenager who thinks it's a big whoop to do this. Loser!
To bad you weren't smart enough to see that people can read your past questions! lol
2006-09-10 22:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Island Queen 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take the 3-year-old to daycare for goodness sake.
Why should she do without a high school education because she has a little brother?
That's just not fair. Your thinking is very mixed up.
Many 16-year-olds do not like school. Their parents send them anyway, because a high school education will get many jobs for them and they may possibly go to college some day.
Do you want your daughter to HAVE to marry somebody just to be supported??? She should have the freedom to decide that for herself.
Be a PARENT to her, don't make her be a substitute wife for you. She is your child, too, and your are stealing her teenage years from her.
2006-09-10 22:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋