I'll try to make a long story short. My EX and I were everything!! The best, happiest couple. I was is 1st love. We were together for over a yr. After that we seperated because of me...I wanted to be with him more than he was able to. He felt like I was chasing him, but I just wanted to be with him. So 5 months has past, and I'am still in love with him, more than ever. True love right! I tryd to meet new people but I just think of him. He's 21 and Im 20, he's not the type of guy to go chasing girls and being in one night stands, or getting a new girl friend right away. He only had 2 girlfriends in his life, and I was the only girl he really loved, and told that to. That goes for me to, I only been in one other relationship before, but Im in love still, I dont know how to move on. I broke his heart so many times, when i use to try to tell him how i feel he just crys, did I hurt him to much? Is that why he wont talk to me? what should I do???
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yeah I tryed to give it time, and to back off, but how long is long enough? It's been 5 months....Isnt that long enough. I cant help the way I feel for him! I have feeling like this, I want to know how he feels to, but he wont talk to me. I hate feeling like this, what am I suppose to do?
2006-09-10 14:42:10 · 4 answers · asked by jackie b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How long is long enough? I remember asking myself that question soooo many times. And even now, almost four years later, my heart still aches a little when he comes to mind. Everyone has their own way of grieving. For me, it was my schoolwork. I focused on it, and took my frustrations out on my books. Since you're 20, that may or may not work, depending on whether you're in college. But don't worry. It will always hurt some, and sometimes it seems like it hurts more than it used to.
The funny thing about love is, that it doesn't care how long it's been. Some people move on after a few days (or even hours), but for the rest of us, it can take months or years. Just don't try to force yourself to try to forget, that just makes things worse.
You also have to remember that he's hurting, too. And as much as you hate it, it is best to give him some space. And besides, absence truly does make the heart grow fonder, but only if it feels like it. ;)
2006-09-10 14:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Souris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself these questions...does he still love me? am i ready to move on? for how long will I ever be like this? I mean..if he is taking evrything like that for 5 mos then I guess he has no plans of reconciling with you. 5 mos is long time to think about those problems you had. BUT if he still does not want to talk about it then chances are he wants to move on withnhis own life and you have to respect that. You told us that you hurt him several times already..I guess this the consequence you have to face. Accept it..learn to let go. You have done enough to try to make it up to him and talk about it..but it is he who is pushing you away..so have also respect for yourself.You can not be assured that he is already the one for you. GO on with your normal life. Yes..it is hard conquering emotions but it takes time. There is no maximum or minimum time..BUT once you have learned to acceot it i'll assure you it will be easy. Go out with friends and stay close to your family.Have fun and enjoy. Make him see that you have move on. It is not the end of the world for you. Make yourself deserving to the one God has prepared for you. If your ex is the one..then wait patiently. Pray..pray... He will comfort you. God bless. Hope this helps.
2006-09-10 15:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by justurangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn how to move on and forget about this guy. Seek counseling if you think it might help you in the long run.
2006-09-10 14:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
write or email him tell him how you feel it is easier to answer a letter or email then face to face
2006-09-10 14:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋