I just broke up with my gf last thursday,we were together for 1 year nad a half, i'm so lost, can't sleep, everything seems to remind me of her...everything feels so pointless...can anyone help me?
2006-09-10 13:41:30 · 23 answers · asked by Adrian B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, sometimes you just have to move on...i know you're probably like" your not in my shoes right now and i cant move on" but you have to try! Try doing something that your girlfriend wouldn't go for or something like that...have fun! This is your life and you shouldn't let some girl that you broke up with keep you from doing things and living your life...
Good luck.
2006-09-10 13:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters... I know it is painful when you have lost the person you were sharing your time with. All of us like to be loved or the feeling of love. But, you are grieving the loss of the Possiblilty of Love, and the Dream, and Wish of Love - not Her. You broke up with her because of the way she is. And you realized you were not able to handle whatever she did,or who she is. That was your brain speaking. Your heart is speaking now. Sorry.. but you have to go with the brains. The brain knows best. You will be fine, the heart will grow back together, but it will probably take at least a month before you don't have her on your mind. It's just part of it. However, if I were you, I would stay away from any contact you could have with her. It will just make you have doubt, if you made the right decision. You made up your mind, and you should never go back with someone. Remember she hasn't changed, overnight. For adults to change it takes a major life a change and alot of time to make them change. You need to stay busy, and if I were you.. I would treat myself. Go somewhere you 've always wanted to go, buy a new CD, go to your favorite restraunt, go see an old friend. ETC.... I know it sucks, all of us have been there. But we all made thruough it, and we are not any tougher than you are. We had to realize that some things happen that are for our best interest. We can't always go with our feelings, if so life would be out of control. Good Luck!! Each day will become easier!!!
2006-09-10 22:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you are feeling down... just remind yourself of the reason you broke up with her. It obviously was something that you could not deal with or you would be with her. You broke up with her. I know you spent alot of time with her, but something caused you to change your mind. It was your decision and now you have to deal with your decision. I would suggest going to a local gym and get into some type of workout regemin or take a night class of something you have always wanted to do. Spend less time alone as possible until some time has passed and you will be fine. Good luck.
2006-09-10 20:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that, it's no easier when you're the one doing the breaking up either (I always thought it would be).
Emotional attachments can run deep and so can the pain of losing that attachment for whatever reason.
You will hurt like this for a while and then gradually it will hurt less and less, until one day it doesn't hurt so much anymore and you are willing to try to search for love again with someone else.
2006-09-10 20:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you were with this one for a year and a half... and the following posts with someone who just broke up with YOU that you were with for 6 months? Get a life, and try to think of REAL things to ask about... there are people out there with REAL problems!
2006-09-12 01:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the break up is final then you need to accept that and go on,yes it will hurt for awhile but the best thing you can do is get out there and get going,everything happens for a reason and if it wasnt meant to be it wasnt meant to be,this means that the right one is out there waiting for you so it is time to find her
2006-09-10 20:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yepper! you need help,may be you can start by acting like a man,stop feel`n sorry for yourself,there is so many really nice girls just waiting for a really nice guy like you.so get a life,move on.she is not worth it.you can do so much better for yourself.she was ugly any ways,you don`t need another doggie. find some one that will melt your socks off.
2006-09-10 20:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow down and take time to breath she isnt the only girl in the sea . im not trying to be mean just telling it how it really is . go out have fun with friends .or try getting her back in a non stocker kind of way.
2006-09-10 20:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look inside your heart, if it feels like you need her, want to be with her, and love her, then I say get up go to her house, take her some flowers and get back with her. You shouldn't have broken up with her, she must feel the same as you, cause youre the one that broke up with her.
So I say, get up this instant, call her, or go to her house, and ask her if she wants you back, because you do?
but of course thats if you want her back, Do you?
2006-09-10 20:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep yourself busy in order to move on and no longer miss her. I know this is easier said than done. But time does heal all wounds. So be patient and that will happen to you.
2006-09-10 20:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by SimpleGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋