Im a 13 year old girl who is in love with a 13 year old boy. He is serously cute, tall, thin, and extremely strong. His life revolves around school, exercise in the park in the afternoon on an obstacle course that involves various strenght building exercises, a mother enforced diet of low fat foods and NO red meat, church on sunday (though I plan to change that because Im Jewish and I want him to practice my religion), total respect and non violance of all persons (though he has risked his life to save a person from armed robbery much to everyones chagrin). In short his behavior is far different than the typical 13 yr old boy. I love him and want to marry him when we both grow up. The problem is his mother is overly protective. She sets an 8:30 pm bedtime. She feeds him cookies and milk at bedtime and he loves his mothers attentions. She likes me and trusts me not to try anything with her son (I wont). I think that Jamie doesnt rebel because he loves female attention.
2006-09-10 13:01:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hey everyone Im sorrrry! I dont want to change Jamie! I respect his mom too much to hurt her son in anyway. I respect his religion. But im NOT too young to know true love and HE's my true love. My grandpa has some classical songs he listens to on cds when he drives me around. One goes "Your my Number 1, Nuumberr 1". Jamie is my Number 1.
2006-09-11 09:04:55 · update #1
Jamie doesn't rebel because he is too young ,boys grow up at a different speed to girls,he sounds like a nice boy and he may well stay one .but if he was 25 and still loving the attention of mother then it would be a real problem ,no woman who wants a modern life would do for him what his mother will.,you are in for trouble if you think you can change him and go against his family ,his religion is just as important as yours ,why do you think he has to change?How do you think his mother would like that?Be a kid and let him grow up and then see what the future holds for you both.
2006-09-10 13:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are WAY TOO YOUNG to even worry about such things. If he is still a momma's boy when he is 18, then you have a legitimate question. Now all you have is a far fetched fantasy that you should drop right now. I believe the problem any of your future relationships may come from your desire to see everything in a crystal ball. God help the person who does not turn out like your fantasies predicted. Grow up, enjoy your youth, and quit trying to figure out how to change a man before you ever become a woman.
One last hint. Trying to change a man ALWAYS fails. Get used to it and don't try.
2006-09-10 13:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. First of all, you are wrong about trying to change his religion. That is very selfish and controling of you. That is showing nothing but jealousy. You should be ashamed of yourself. He should be made to go to church. His mother is trying to save him from the devil and make her son realize how important it is to have Jesus in his life. You seem to be of the devil. Maybe, you are no good for this young man.
Now, his mother is wrong for being so overbering over her son. Bringing him milk and cookies at bedtime. She is ruining the young man. He is not going to be anygood to a woman. All she is teaching her son to do is to depend on a woman. And you seem just like the dummy to do that. You are already talking about changing his religon. Maybe you should sit back and think about if your loverboy is the right one for you. Marriage. You are way ahead of yourself. You are only 13 years old. Alot of things could change now and then. He doesn't rebel cause he loves his mother. Not because he loves female attention. You have alot to learn about men sweetie. Don't count your chickens before they hatch. She is molding him to be a sucessful young man in life and in the Lord. If you are going to hinder his sucess with your selfish behavior, leave him alone. If you really love this young man (which you couldn't possibly. Too young to even know what that kind of love even feels like) you would want to see him happy and blessed by the world. You would only bring him down. Unless you change your ways. Ask him how he feels about the future. And if he wants you in his future. Ask him if he loves you the way you love him. If he is of Jesus, he will give you a truthful answer. You need prayer. I know the truth hurts doesn't it.
2006-09-10 13:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Wednesday 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just might have a chance with him. BUT I know 2 boys that are overprotected by there mother that is so not funny!!! its really funny, for wut you just said about that boy is like the same everything that theses boys do, but the sad this is that they are so protected by there mom that all they can think about is girls and that is the only thing mom cant stop( and the thing is I'AM a GIRL) it is SO gross. the one is 13 and the other is 14 and I"m 15.and the one has had 4 girl friends and he started dating when he was 13!
2006-09-10 13:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by madpl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, think for a second, how do you even know you're gonna marry him? hate to burst your bubble but you're thinking way ahead, even if you do end up dating not very many people marry their first boyfriend. you'll probally go to different colleges move away and never see each other again, and if by the small chance you do marry him, being raised the way he is, he wont change religions. but must be a cool guy if he risked his life like that but still dont quit your day job (if that makes any sense in in this situation)
2006-09-10 13:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by SlimShadyGirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the problem isn't this boy's mother, it's YOUR mother. why isnt she doting on you, telling you to let people be what they want to be. why isnt she raising you to respect other religions, instead of sitting around plotting to "change" other people's religion because of what you "want" ...those were your words hun. why isn't YOUR mother being a good example of a woman, so that you will have high self esteem and be focused on your acedemics, travel, school activities and your self worth so that you wont have such a small mind. i mean, hun i was a normal teenager girl, chasing boys, going to sleep overs and enjoying my young life. you are out to change a boy's religion, putting down his endearing mother and PLANNING ON MARRAIGE! GOOD grief, slow down. he's a kid, let his mother treat him as such! soon he'll be a man, a real man with man size responsibilities. if you rob him of that with your manipulation he'll blame you. let him enjoy his family, his religion and fantastic values.
2006-09-10 13:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows? With the effects of heredity being greater than 0, he may grow up over protected; rebellious against his mother; both, or neither. You are not getting married now, so wait and see.
2006-09-10 15:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't rebel because he's only 13. give him a few more years, it'll get ugly. and as for changing him... that is not a loving and respectful thing to do. you need to accept people for who they are and you need to accept what religion he is. right off you're talking about changing him. that says to me that you don't really know what love is. but then again you're only 13 as well, so in reality, you don't know what love it.
2006-09-10 13:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're Jewish and you think you can challenge his religious practices, and his mother?
You have no chance with this boy.
2006-09-10 13:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he will be a mamas boy forever
get out while you can
2006-09-10 13:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Simplystunning 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋