I have just ended a relationship because my partner hit me! If he did it once, would he do it again?

Answer 1

most likely

Answer 2

ABSOLUTELY!!!!
I know you are probably missing him,but Sweetheart,you did the right thing by getting out NOW.The saying "if they'll do it once,they'll do it again"is true.I spent 3yrs trying to make a marriage work with a guy I really loved,but he used me as a punching bag,and after almost killing me,I finally left.It didn't start out punching,it started gradually,but escalated fast.He was always sorry,and he'd never do it again.And then I would MAKE him do it,cause I just didn't do what I was told,and on and on and on.There was always an excuse.And his family would always say how much he loved me,and I should give him another chance.I finally had to leave because I knew he would've killed me.I never looked back from that moment on,ANYONE I got involved with,if they even looked like they were going to get violent,or talked down to me. They were gone.You are a grown woman,you don't need anyone to tell you how to act,or how to dress,or do anything,You have a mind of your own,and you don't need a father.And if you grew up in a household where you saw your father hit your mother,or you witnessed any kind of abuse,the chances of you getting into another abusive relationship,are about 90%.Don't be a statistic.Get some counseling,you can look in the phone book and find the # for abused women and they will get you to the right place to talk to someone,for little or no charge.If you drink and meet men in bars,you need to be really careful.Chances are,if they have a drinking problem they'll have ALLOT of other problems.You are very smart for getting out.Stay smart and stay alive,leave the looser alone.

My x he killed the next woman he got with.So don't think that you can change him.
Good luck sweetie,and take care.
DO NOT UNDER ANY CURCUMSTANCES TAKE THE ADVICE OF THE FIRST PERSON THAT ANSWERED YOU.IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT YOU DID,NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO PUT THEIR HANDS ON YOU.THIS IS THE KIND OF STUFF THEY PULL,TRYING TO MAKE YOU THINK THAT IN SOME WAY YOU DESERVED IT...WRONG

Answer 3

You can sure count on it. He's a control freak and nothing you do is going to help. You can be submissive, you can fight back, with the same results. It does not matter what you say, do, think, you will always be wrong. The best thing you did was to get out of the relationship. Be strong, no matter what he promises you, it's all lies. You did not say if you had children, but this scenario is the worst thing for a child to see over and over again. They will grow into thinking this is normal behavior. Love does not have to hurt, but this is what they will learn if you go back to him, providing that you have children. If you don't, he will not change, he will still abuse you physically and then start with the mental abuse. Tear you down until you feel like you are crap, maybe put you in the hospital a couple of times with you lying about what really happened, until that day when he finally snaps completely and he kills you. This is like a wheel in motion, round and round, over and over again.
DO NOT LOOK BACK. DO NOT GO BACK. RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN, THE FARTHER THE BETTER

Answer 4

Absolutely yes. Statistics on domestic abusers show that not only is the likelihood of re-offence so close to 100%,that it may as well be, but that in almost all cases, it escalates.It is a notoriously "fixed" behaviour pattern, very resistant to even the most intensive therapy, which usually gets worse the more a woman stays/returns (some say because he has less and less "respect" for her--although the use of the word in this context could be seen as bizarre).But scarier than that, women in these situations, who return, often end up with a completely distorted sense of reality, and what is respectful and acceptable behaviour, which takes years to recover from. Many refer to the first time they "forgave", with intense regret, citing that as the real turning point, in their self-respect , and mental health. He just HIT you....ie ASSAULTED you. Do you really want to be at close quarters with a person who can square that with "love" in their own mind, in ANY way? I hope you don't go back:)

Answer 5

let me tell you a little story!!! my mum was married to a man (he is my bio father) and he used to beat the hell out of her and me and my older brother, every time he did it he said that he was sorry and he would never do it it again and he kept on doing it to her. 5 years she put up with his fist and abuse, she was too scared to leave him, in the end with the support of her parents she left him when i was 6 months old. He has never bothered with my or my older brother, she is now married to the most fantastic man ever and he treats her so well. They have been married for 19 years and are still very much in love. The moral of the story....... Never believe a man who hits you, if he has done once he will do it again. You will find love but with a man who loves for who you are and not for his punch bag!!!
If you need any help then let me know trust me i know how hard it can but trust me you have done the right thing by leaving him now. Good luck girl and well done for what you have done xx xx

Answer 6

Take it from someone who has gone through this, it may start with a hit but then turn into my nightmare, being beat, urinated on, forced to have sex, almost choked to death. All this and I stayed there for three years until I ended up in the hospital, listen to me if he does it once he will do it again and again.

Answer 7

Most definitely. He is an abuser and as such he wouldn't change. It would just get worse and you could end up seriously injured, or worse - dead. You have done the right thing. An abuser has to be in control and no one has the right to control another person. Good for you for having the courage to end it now before it gets worse. PLEASE don't even think about giving him another chance (I know, I have been there and got the T shirt) Hope you find someone who will treat you with respect soon. Good luck.

Answer 8

Men who hit women are insects; A guy say 5' 10", hitting his girl who might be around 5' 4" and 2/3 his weight; it'd be like hitting a child and he knows it. Forget him; he's a waste of space..

Answer 9

YES and if he will not leave you alone get a personal protection order from the police department or court house also you may want to make a police report that he hit you

Answer 10

Yes

Answer 11

You did the right thing. He will do it again and probably consectutively worse as the years go by. Better off finding someone who knows the difference between a woman and a punching bag.