He is extremely depressed and has no friends here whereas he had many where we used to live. he hates every aspect of where we currently live. should we move back?
2006-09-10 12:37:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he is 13 and we moved more than 1500 miles away.
2006-09-10 12:55:10 · update #1
i think u should give it a little more time 4 him like 4 months and if hes still miserable move back thats what my mom did 4 me and my brother and sister and now we r much happier since we moved back i moved thousands of miles away as well i moved 2 florida and we moved back 2 ohio after 6 months
2006-09-10 13:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Meagan S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on how old the son is, you might do some research and find some activities to get him involved in things he enjoys with kids his age. It could be something he has never tried before, offer to let him invite a child a week to spend the evening and make each visit different, like take them for a pizza or to watch a movie at the house, or just to hang out together. It will be hard for awhile but he should adjust before too long. If he does not, is there someone in the former town that would allow him to stay with them and you pay for his upkeep rather than move back.............a lot of times the child would choose to be with you no matter where you are if given the choice.....good luck
2006-09-10 12:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, we moved around A LOT, which is hard on a kid, because back then your friends are basically the centre of your entire existence. Just give you son some time, it always takes a while to adjust, because first you've got to stop sulking, then you've got to get over the "im better than you because i come from so and so a place" mentality, and THEN you can make friends. For now i would say support him and not take his sulking too too seriously unless it goes on for a really long period of time or you find hes not making ANY friends. It might also be a good idea to keep him in contact with his old friends or maybe get one of them to visit your son for a weekend or something.
2006-09-10 12:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by ♥amorvida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not move back.
You moved for a reason right, I mean I'm sure you didn't get up one day and say, "hey lets just move today"
Your son needs to learn that there are good and bad things in life and having to move sometimes is one of them. If you move back just so your son is happy, then all you are doing is teaching him that he gets everything he wants. He is a kid, he will adjust, if he doesn't then it is his own fault. I'm sure if he is in school there have been kids who extended the hand of friendship, if he bit them off, then he has no one but himself to blame for being miserable. If he isn't in school yet, then when he gets there it will change for him.
I moved my two boys last year, they were 13 and 15 and they hated it. Once they started school they made friends, and my oldest got a job, and they wouldn't move back now for anything. They can go back and visit cause their grandparents live there still, but they like their new life here.
2006-09-10 12:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? Did you move during his last year or two of high school?
That is a tough age for your son. It'll take some time for him to adjust to his new home. But no, you shouldn't move back. Just encourage him to get involved in things at school. Help him to make new friends with the local kids. Most likely he'll feel better about things before the end of the year.
2006-09-10 12:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by fiestyredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is obviously a reason that you moved, so moving back would defeat the initial purpose of the move. You dont say ow old your son is, but it takes time to adjust to new places, people. Ive moved 16 times in 17 years and I have three kids and they are all well adjusted kids. You might need to support him abit more and try to find out how things are going at school, talk to the teachers and see if they know. If your son likes sports, get him into something and that should broaden his horizons. :)
2006-09-10 12:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any community activies or centers or programs like Big brothers and Sisiter organizations, or maybe try taking him out in the community and having some fun and maybe you could also have one of his best friend over on the week end. If all else fails you might want to reconsider moving back, yet, life is full of changing events and it is difficult to adjust to change, give a 3 to 6 months and see how well things go, will he be going to school maybe he will make new friends. good luck
2006-09-10 13:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by soulstore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. My mom wanted to move to another town slightly closer to her job. We were living in a town where I had many friends. But once we moved to the new town I didn't have a single friend. I was always the out cast. My mom was my only friend. The other kids used to make me cry. I was miserable for the next 10 years of my life until I graduated and moved out. But if we hadn't moved there I probably wouldn't have moved away and probably wouldn't have met my husband.
2006-09-10 12:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by MyCuteDog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Don't move back. Depending on how old your son is, Moving can be extremely hard. At any age, actually. He will eventually make new friends, and get used to the change.
It's not the easiest thing by any means, but it can be accomplished. Give it some more time.
2006-09-10 12:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by ryan78230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months is not long enough to move back. Is school just starting? Give him a chance to make friends in school. If he had many friends where you used to live, he will come around and start making friends. Get him involved in sports, scouts, clubs, something he is interested in so that he has more chances to make friends. If he is still not coming around, take him to a doctor to see if something else is wrong. Give your family the best chance to work it out before packing it in.
2006-09-10 12:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋