Dad is being mean?

Question

I sometimes hate my father. Right now he is pissed at me, He won't let me do ANYTHING and I have to go to bed at 8:30. He takes drastic measures because i'm bipolar, like sending me to mental institutions, even though there is nothing wrong says the doctors. He wants me in a military school. I'm very po'd at him. I'm very scared of him, too. I live in two homes... But what should I do....?

Okay for current answers: My mom is scared of him, too. She is divorced from him, live with her half the time. He has been a drug abuser in the past, and he has trouble paying his bills.

I'm 13....

I've tried running away, he calls the police. He tells the therapists these bad things I NEVER do. I cry every day and have reported him, but then he gets furious.

My dad is telling me I can't take anymore food tonight because I wan't hungry for a veggie burger....I can't drink anything, either.

Answer 1

What is your living situation? Do your parents have joint custody, with you living part of the time with your father, and part of the time with your mother? Are these the two homes you're referring to? If so, why don't you see if you can have the court's custody order changed so you can live with your mother permanently? You're probably old enough to decide where you want to live if your father is being abusive to you. If that isn't feasible, see if you can live with a grandparent or an aunt. There's no reason why you should have to put up with abuse.

Answer 2

I have a step child who is bipolar, has lived with me since 2 yrs, is now 12. He does things and when I tell his dad, he denies it. Sometimes I don't know if he is denying it to get out of trouble or if he really doesn't remember doing these things. When he won't eat dinner, his dad tells him he can't eat snacks either. I know people who abused drugs in the past but don't anymore, so that isn't an issue unless he's still doing it. And if he did abuse drugs, of course he can't afford to pay his bills, he's still trying to play catch up from his earlier unwise decision, but if he works at and makes wise decisions, he will one day be able to pay his bills. Sometimes I send him to bed at 8:00 or 8:30 just because it takes so much energy to deal with him and he is so stressful to be around. You do need to take your meds or have your meds evaluated to see if they need to be changed. It sounds like your not taking any or they are not doing the job for you. You say your 13, and that's such a hard age anyway. If you run away, he SHOULD call the police, you are endangering your own safety, and by making choices to deal with problems like this, you are showing that you cannot take care of yourself. I am not trying to be mean by saying these things, but the truth is, your life is going to be much harder because you are bi-polar. I am sure your dad loves you, he's just got the hard job of taking care of a bi-polar child. People should not be so quick to judge unless they have been in this situation. Now if you can give us some concrete things that he has done, other than not letting you pig out on crap when you refuse to eat your dinner, then I could be a little more sympathetic to your situation, but quite frankly, it sounds like a day in the life of a typical bi-polar kid to me. If your mom is scared of him, then you need to have a serious discusion with her about your situation, asking her if there is any way she can help you? Good luck, and I hope you both get past this difficult time soon and everything turns out ok.

Answer 3

Oh goodness! Well, you've got some options in front of you now. You say that your Dad is a drug abuser and has issues paying the bills, so that gives you a really good reason to go live with your mother. So you can either stay there or move in with your Mom. And don't be afriad of him, I know it's hard getting rid of fear-but just stand your ground and try to make the best of it until you can get out of there. I wish the very best for you.

Answer 4

You sound like a teenager. When I was a teen my dad and I hated each other, I mean complete enemies, worse was I didnt follow the rules, the more he would say "go to bed at 830" the later i would stay up or just sneak out. This will not change until you go to college and learn to life on your own. You will just have to wait it out, i know it sucks but its life. Most girls have to go through it.

Try to do good in school and when you graduate get the hell out! Then when you back home your parents will miss you and you will have a better relationship. Your father will see that you have mature and let you live your life

Answer 5

You don't say why your father is angry with you so that we can judge if he is being mean or just disciplining you. You tell us you're bipolar, but then say the doctors say there is nothing wrong. The point is you need an adult who knows all the details of the situation (like your Mom or maybe a grandparent, aunt, family friend) to intervene between you and your Dad.

Answer 6

I agree with Greg, if he is "abusing" you then call your state Family and Social Services and they will investigate the matter and if need be place you in another home. Then when that happens maybe you can compare housholds and probably see how blessed you were to be with your father, or how blessed you are to be outside your home. However, what are you doing to piss him off? You can't always have your way and you need to abide by rules. You are not grown. Evaluate the matter and make an appropriate decision on what to do.

Answer 7

FIRST OF ALL : HATE is such a harsh word and im sure you dont mean you hate him, you may not like his ways with you.and wow 8:30 bedtime is kinda early but if he cant care foryou like a father should be able too than maybe your mom should see if you can live with her, if your dad wont allow that than ask your mom to take him to court.. tell your mom to tell the courts how he treats you and she what she can do to help you.. good luck

Answer 8

Obey your parents. Do what they say. Try to be the best person you can be. Wake up every day with a smile on your face. Try your best at school. Soon enough, you will graduate and be on your own. Your parents love you and want what is best for you. You'll have the rest of your life to live it the way you want. But for now, hold your temper, be polite and study hard.

Answer 9

If he is sending you to mental institutions when all medical evidence says you are o.k., then he is the one with the problem.
I am assuming the other home you live in is your mother's? Are things better there? If so, see if you can have the custody arrangement changed so you have most of your time with her.

Answer 10

You admit that you are bipolar so there is something wrong with you, sweetie. I seriously doubt that you will be accepted into a military school being bipolar. I don't know what to tell you......try to get along and go with the flow ........your life will be better if you can get along with Dad.