I hosted a wedding recept. for my sis in our yard, as she wanted. My hubby & I spent endless hrs. & days off work to make it perfect. I hired kitchen help & servers. Everything went off w/o a hitch.The compliments were endless. About 2 hrs. into the reception I pd. my servers & let them go as several of the older adults were leaving. My hubby & I could not wait to relax & spend time with my sister & her new hubby. I was maid of honor at her wedding. About 15 mins. after the servers left my new brot-in-law loaded up the keg & told my sister it was time to go! Her 1st response was, "I'm not going anywhere". He then told her their friends just left & were on their way to their house. When I ??ed him about why he was leaving he said that a few of his friends had "DUI'S" & they lived a couple of blks from their home & didn't want them driving 15mins. from our home. When they left, other guest followed leaving us alone in the yard just as the lighted garland lit up. How should I feel?
2006-09-10 12:18:20 · 15 answers · asked by nchance0004@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My husband & I were not invited back to their home!
2006-09-10 12:51:02 · update #1
And it wasn't about the keg!
2006-09-10 12:52:30 · update #2
Cheshire Cat. Yes, and she wanted to stay also.
2006-09-10 13:04:08 · update #3
I believe that in everything we have an opportunity to learn. You have learned something about your new brother-in-law, and now he needs to learn something about you. Let him know what happened to you that evening. You could open his eyes to how you want to be treated in the future. Your sis will be fine, as long as you express your feelings and don't "attack" her new hubby. Blood is thicker than water, except when you are a newlywed!!
2006-09-10 16:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by n.gmerk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would feel very hurt that he would be so selfish after all of your hard work! At least your sister seemed to recognize this and told him she wasn't ready to leave. If his friends couldn't contain their alcohol consumption, then he could have always called cabs and paid for their rides home. There doesn't really seem to be anything you can do about it at this point, I assume you don't want to create problems between you and your sister; or for her and her new husband. If possible, I would just let yourself go through the process of being mad without starting anything behind it, and move on. You know what a jerk he is now, you know he was wrong to do what he did, and you know you're the better person for rising above it. You're definately a GREAT sister for doing everything you did to make her wedding memorable for her!
2006-09-11 01:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not feel insulted, though you were, because this fellow sounds like a real cad.
That was terrible thing he did. It sounds like your sister has gone into one of those relationships that are so dreaded in many families.
I can understand why a newly wed couple would scurry off in a big hurry after weddings and receptions but it is usually to consummate the marriage, not to hall a bunch of drunks around.
I am sorry for your loss and hope that one day maybe you and your sister will get to spend time together again.
2006-09-10 20:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by ĴΩŋ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your new bro in law had no right to help himself to the keg. He should have discussed his plans with you. In the long run it's better that it went the way it did. If anyone got busted for DUI after leaving your place you would have been liable for a healthy law suit. All's well that ends well. I'm sure you created a pleasant memory for all. Leave it be and maintain good family relations as best you can.
2006-09-10 19:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That was really rude. Just remember that and keep that in mind next time you want to do something for them. Nothing you can do now. We have friends that did that to us. We cooked an awsome meal for them, spent all day getting ready, they came and ate then left half hour later for some other party! We were so ticked off that we didnt' answer thier calls for weeks and we will never invite them for dinner again. Did I mention that we spend over 100 dollars on all of it?
2006-09-10 20:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel humiliated and offended. He sounds really immature. I cannot imagine what would have possessed a supposedly grown man to do such an obnoxious thing. Plus, if the guy has friends who have DUI's then it sounds as though your sister has married herself a winner who surrounds himself with people that overindulge in alchohol regularly.
2006-09-10 20:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's very rude and unappreciative of your hard work. Best advice is don't approach him about it though - you don't want to strain your relationship with your sister. She's probably upset enough about his behavior. Don't go out of your way for this guy again and if you do by chance throw another party for them - tell him if he didn't pay for it he's not taking it with him (meaning keg and all).
2006-09-10 19:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by sunssecret 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
These were your expectation, sweetie, so just let it go. You did what you wanted to do and I do not feel that they owed you anything. It was their wedding and reception. Do not make an issue of it.....start out on a good note, take the high road and just let it go.
2006-09-10 19:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You had all the rights to be mad, esp. after spending all the time, $$$ and efforts in setting up the reception for them. However, they obviously enjoyed your reception. In your brother-in-law's mind, he probably thought the party was over (since you mentioned that people started to leave), and he had a right to continue the party elsewhere. I wished you & your husband joined them @ their house.
2006-09-10 19:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by erinlovestv 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your brother-in-law acted as a cad. I'm sorry what happened to you and your husband, but I fear this is only the beginning of what this new member of the family will do to people's feelings. He sounds immature and selfish. I do feel sorry for you, but I even feel more sorry for your sister... she married him.
2006-09-10 23:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋