Recently I had some people question my daughter on why she wasn't in high school anymore. She told them that that I (her father) had told her to drop out of school so she could help take care of her 3 yr. old little brother (my son). My daughter doesn't mind that I told her to do that b/c she likes making her dad happy and she didn't like school to begin with. Some of these people have come up to me and said I was very wrong in making her drop out of school, but I told them that I'm a single dad and I work, plus my girlfriend can't do it all the time because she is a nurse and has some crazy shifts sometimes. Besides, its not like she was going to college or anything and the last two years of high school are just not useful anyways. I also tell them that I have a very nice man lined up for her to marry in a few years that will provide for her. I guess its just getting really anoying to me and especially when they tell my daughter I'm a bad parent.
2006-09-10 12:16:05 · 28 answers · asked by Sandstorm222 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can't believe these responses. It's like you all forgot what a daughters responsibility was to her family.
2006-09-10 12:36:50 · update #1
and besides...most of these aren't answering my questions...most of these answers are mean hate filled tyrades like i get from people in person....very rude
2006-09-10 12:39:51 · update #2
OK. THIS IS OBVIOUSLY ALL MAKE BELIEVE!!!!!!!
ANYONE TAKING THIS SERIOUSLY IS BEING HAD. READ THE QUESTION -- LOOK AT HIS USE OF LANGUAGE AND HIS VOCABULARY.
First, it wouldn't be neighbors saying it was wrong, it would be police.
Second, the story is too long and too filled with obvious stupidity for anyone to take seriously.
However, it is not funny. Getting an education is very important and not even having a high school diploma is guaranteed to lead to zero prospects in the working world. It would also eliminate most prospects for a good husband.
All told this story would be a disaster for the child, and should not be suggested even in jest, which everyone knows, as can be seen from the answers of the people who think this is a real question.
2006-09-10 12:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by rehabob 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't necessarily think that anyone should make the judgement that you are a bad parent only on a single dimension. However, you need to honestly ask yourself whether or not you had your daughter's best interests in mind when you made that decision. Perhaps you are just not aware of how important school is. Even if she doesn't go to college immediately, it is a stepping-stone for the future, and some jobs (even non-skilled jobs) require a hs diploma. Were there reasons other than your own needs that prompted you to remove your daughter from school? If so, then tell people what they were. If it was a selfish move, then I would implore you to consider re-enrolling her. Otherwise, you can look into alternatives such as a GED course, or some community colleges have programs where you go a couple of days per week and get a diploma that way (an actual diploma, not a GED). The point is, if you want something to tell people to get them off your back, then you need to be doing something to ensure that she has options in the future. What if this guy doesn't pan out? Or what if she doesn't want to marry him?
2006-09-10 12:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by arcanefairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you in some sort of a cult or something? Your daughter doesn't value education, I wonder why? So, this guy who is going to marry her in a few years, he's going to give you a few goats for her, is he? I usually don't flame, but if you're not trolling, you're a troll.
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Oh, you're SENSITIVE. You REALLY want answers. Poor guy. Your daughter's responsibility is to live her life for your convenience. You're such a misunderstood soul...
Okay, here's how to get people to get off your case:
1. Put her back in school and quit expecting her to take care of your responsibilities.
2. I'm surprised to think that you haven't thought to cut off her communication with others, then people wouldn't be asking (I am not suggesting this, I wholeheartedly believe this guy is yanking chains...)
3. Go ahead and get her married off now, and then you can tell people that she's married and that's why she doesn't go to school.
Good luck in getting the "You're such a great parent" affirmations you're seeking.
Troll.
2006-09-10 12:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by sendmedaisies 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious??? Dear God, I hope you are joking! It's not your daughter's responsibility to take care of your son. She is just a kid herself! She needs to finish school and make her own choices. What if she eventually decides she wants to go to college? What if she doesn't hit it off with the man you picked for her? It's your responsibility to provide equally for your kids, and your daughter is not a babysitter. Even if she doesn't ever go to college, most jobs require high school completion. It's just not feasible to live off of one income, so the chances are good that she will have to go to work someday even if she is happily married.
Edit after reading additional details
All right, here's an answer to your question about how to get people to stop getting on your case: Get her back into school!
And a daughter does have responsibility to her family, but not at the sacrifice of her future. After all, you don't have kids for the prospect of free household help, but to have the experience of raising a child and imparting your wisdom on the world. If you don't give her every chance to succeed (in today's world, that absolutely includes a high school education), then what kind of parent are you? My parents were poor, they never owned their own house, I didn't grow up with a bike or expensive toys, but my parents gave me the world. They taught me that I could accomplish anything that I put my mind to. I finished high school, attended community college, and I'm now a paramedic. I own a house, I've got a great paying job, and I owe it all to my wonderful mother and father who gave me the freedom and tools I needed to do well in life. Sure, I helped out with my baby sister, but I wasn't responsible for her care. If I had, I would have never been able to finish high school and attend college. So, do your daughter a favor. Let her make her own choice about what she wants to do with her life. You will be giving her the greatest gift of all: freedom to live her own life.
2006-09-10 12:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Having read your responses, and all the answers up so far, perhaps you should be getting a message from this. 16 year-olds, boys or girls, should have a chance to become educated and learn to be their own people. Perhaps you are not from the general Americna culture, and have failed to tell us that. It is true that in many places girls are not educated because their fathers see no worth in it, and they are forced (or go willinglyy) into arranged marriages, and they are expcted to learn only to take care of things around the house and kitchen and children. But this is not the culture we are responding from. If, in fact, you are from one of those cultures and not in America, you should let us know so we can better understand where you are coming from. But if you are in the States, you need to reconsider your thoughts on this, because they are decidedly not mainstream.
2006-09-10 12:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by world traveler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HUNNY they won't till the day she graduates and then goes to college and makes something of herself.
As a parent don't give up and let your child do it. I would hope you care enough to want her to achieve and accomplish great things in her life , but won't get to far with out an education.
so untill then those that are only are doing it cause they LOVe , Care and want only the best for your Daughter.
just ask a adult who droped out of school if they could redo it would they have stayed in school and hoped for a better job. then fipping burgers. ?
Don't give up on her encourage her to full fill her dreams bye finishing school weither she likes it or not It's what gets you bye in this world of information and Knowledge.
so Please for all those who are blessed to have kids don't give up just because the going is tough and the tough get tougher.
don't let her do the same things you might of done growing up. help her to want to achieve greater goals and dreams. with a education. without one your going to always be lost and not fit in.
2006-09-10 12:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 01:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an idiot and should not have bred to begin with. Now thanks to you there will be one more idiot available to flip my burgers at McDonalds. Welcome to the age of minimum wage honey!
ADDITION: Looks like you deserve all of those responses you get from people in person. What about a parent's responsibility to their children? Idiot!! If I was your daughter I would pack my bags, take all the money out of your purse, and run far far away from you. The kid can take better care of herself without your messed up point of view screwing her up for life.
Oh and to answer your question....as long as you are such a moron everyone will be on your case. You will never get them to stop.
2006-09-10 12:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Country Girl for Life 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your an Idiot! parents like you should have your children taken from you. You need to either have a vasectomy or be castrated so you have no more children. You are not fit to raise children
Why don't you buy a big life insurance policy for your kids. I will take care of the rest. ohh and i will need a address to find you.
2006-09-10 12:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by tony r 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
because you are a bad parent for making her drop out to take care of her little brother....its called a babysitter, daycare, preschool. you should want the best for your daughter, not to have her help you out cause you too cheap to get someone else to take care of your son. and then to have some guy already lined up for her..wtf?? you suck
2006-09-10 12:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋