2006-09-10 12:09:15 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not the one who wants to be, he is.
2006-09-10 12:12:45 · update #1
Most of the time no. Because even if it starts as friends with benefits and both of you are ok with it at the time. One usually ends up wanting more and the other usually then doesn't. In all reality after doing the whole friends with benefits how do you seriously think one would build a committed relationship off that anyhow?
I did it once when I was about 18......ended badly and lost the friend. He wanted more, I did not. We couldn't remain friends. So before you cross this line I would really think about this. You might lose a friend only to get your rocks off a few times. Is that REALLY worth it to you?
Ultimately if it is you that eventually wants more that will be a whole new type of pain that is best left to be avoided.
Instead find someone you have genuine interest in and not just physical and try to build a relationship and see where it goes. It might still end in heartbreak, and that is ok. Good Luck....
2006-09-10 12:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Pam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friends with benefits are great but only if you are both mature enough to handle it. You need to make sure that there are no underlying feelings with this friend. If he had or has a crush on you this is a total NO GO because having sex with him might just make those feelings come back and then you lose a friend. If you both agree that it is just sex and nothing will happen with it, then no problem you have a pact and you are good to go. There is nothing wrong with wanting your cake and eating it too.
2006-09-10 12:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you're looking for. I have a friend with benefits, he satisfies me physically but there is no emotional fulfillment. If you are looking for just sex, then I say it's a great idea, but if you are looking for a relationship, a friend with benefits will only make you think more about what you don't have and that can be depressing.
2006-09-10 12:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by morticia17mt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a temporary and destructive in some ways.
But sometimes it helps if youre not really sure about being in a committed relationship. Just make sure the other person is aware of your 'friend with benefits' clause, so they dont get hurt because it's not a real committed and satisfying relationship and could result in std's or unwanted pregnancy.
2006-09-10 12:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The appeal is undeniable! To date, though, I have never had a sexual relationship with a woman who could keep her emotions out of it. I have come to the conclusion that women can't separate sex from their emotions, even when they think they can. For that reason, I don't believe it's a good idea.
Besides, when the guy finds a girlfriend or gets engaged to be married, think about how you will feel. Will you look back on the relationship with fond memories of two friends enjoying themselves in sexual abandon or will you feel suddenly fell like you were just there to relieve his tensions while he searched for what he was really looking for?
2006-09-10 13:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not a good idea...that way he gets whatever he wants from you, without oweing you anything...attention, time, affection.... Don't set yourself up to be used by a guy like that! Girls will become more attached when things get more physical, but it isn't always the same for guys. You might start liking him and end up with a broken heart when he tells you that all he ever wanted was "friendship."
I would NOT do that if you have any respect for yourself!
2006-09-10 12:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by kari 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't believe in friends with benefits. There is a huge possibility that one of the parties involved will develop feelings for the other person while the other party doesn't (In my experience, usually the girls fall for the guy but for the guy it's just sex). Sometimes though it's both just for the sex. In that case, beneficial for both of you.
2006-09-10 12:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by prettygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion no. I think it is much more satisfying to be with a guy who is in love with you and only wants to be with you. There's something about using another person for sex without love that wouldn't sit well with me and how I respect myself. I figure it sets such a low standard on the friendship that you likely can never change without ending the relationship. Just my two cents....Good luck with that.
2006-09-10 12:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by mamaloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have to be "friends" only. Nothing wrong with having a special Monday, Wednesday, and every other Sunday friend. Just don't let your spouse find out, or you'll have a lot of..." 'spainin' to do Lucy " :)
2006-09-10 12:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by Twilighttime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in firends with benefits relationship for about 6 months now....it was his idea, but it's working for us both. he doesn't see anyone else and neither do i, but.....we're not in eachothers way either. i'd like to have a more serious relationship witrh him, but this will work for now until he's more comfortable being more comitted.
2006-09-10 12:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by raylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋