Am i Wrong?

Question

What do you do when your family becomes damn near best friends with your ex. We just recently broke up so some feelings are still fresh but since the break up my family has, in my opinion, gone to far. He drives their cars, they pick him up from work, and he visits them everyday. Is there something wrong with this picture or is it me.

Answer 1

It is only wrong because you seem to have a problem with it, if you've expressed that you do not like them to continue having close relaitons with him and they keep doing it. YOU should come way before him to your family. So if you haven't talked to them already, do it.
BUT if you haven't expressed this is making you uncomfortable, I think its understandable for them to continue this. They probably were fond of him and a bond of friendship probably great. Now that you two aren't dating does not necessarily end any relationship that started because of your relationship together. But again, if it makes you uncomfortable, let them know and the right thing for them to do is to stop.

Answer 2

I can understand your pain. I was going through a very similar situation myself not too long ago. You should explain to your family that you expect them to be your support system and that he has his own. While you cannot tell them what to do, you can request that you not have to see him everytime you visit your family members, especially while the feelings are fresh. On a side note, it sounds like someone cant let go and he is using your family to try and stay close to you ;-)

Answer 3

I am sorry about your breakup and I can understand your feeling left out. I think on one hand that you picked this guy cause of the good qualities you found in him and obviously your family see the same things. Also as this is a breakup maybe they do not want you two to feel that it is definite and the final solution,Other then that I think that you should sit down with them and let them know that you really do not want him in your life anymore and it makes it difficult for you when he is hanging out with them. In any case good luck with it and keep in mind that they do love you. You are flesh and blood.

Answer 4

Your family should be on your side. Picking him up for work is WAY too far. Talk to them to make friends with someone other than your ex.

Answer 5

that is a little much. you should try to talk to your family and let them know how you feel about it. and try talking to you ex. as well. if i were you i wouldnt like that going on at all. but im sure if you tell your family about it then they'll understand. if it keeps going on then try your best not to care. or better yet act like you dont care. maybe your ex. is doing this to get your attention.

Answer 6

Speak with your family and let them know the situation is kind of weird with you. Tell them the feelings are kind of raw right now and it hurts that he is there so often. Maybe they are hoping if he is around so much you will want to get back together.

Answer 7

there's something wrong with that ofcourse. your family is suppose to have your back but at the same your family might be trying to tell u something. maybe they really just like him and think he's the one for you but what ever it is talk it out with your family not us. for we don't know whats going on. then try talking to your ex about it .it may just help.

Answer 8

You need to let go of this. He is out of your life. You can't expect everyone else to turn on him like he is a leper. Let your family know of your dis-comfort in a calm manner.

Answer 9

I think your family are being unfair to you. how can you move on while he still hangs around. tell them your feelings about the situation. good luck.

Answer 10

I THINK YOUR FAMILY PROBABLY WANTS THE TWO OF YOU TO GET BACK TOGETHER, OR MAYBE HE'S TRYING TO STAY IN GOOD WITH THE FAMILY SO HE CAN JUST BE CLOSE TO YOU.