i have a boyfriend& i guess i love him,but he lives 900 miles away& i also like this other boy,who lives next door.The whole long distance thing really sucks.& i like them both.
2006-09-10 12:05:45 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you feel this way then there should be no cheating involved. Break - up then go do what you want to. No need to string him along. If you really love someone you wont act on your instincts. Just break up and go about your business.
2006-09-10 12:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was trying to think of a serious answer for this question, however without a serious question it is hard to do so.
Cheating is ALWAYS wrong. Married or not. If you are considering cheating you do NOT love the person period. You say "I guess I love him". No you don't. If you don't that is fine, but IF you cheat the puts you in a class of people you do NOT want to join. If things aren't working out then break it off with your long distance bf and then go for whomever you wish. Then your fine.
EVEN if he cheated on you, doesn't mean YOU should do the same as others said. The old saying does apply in this. Two wrongs NEVER make a right!
2006-09-10 12:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by Pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, cheating is bad. You've obviously never cheated or been cheated on, because you'd be able to answer your own question otherwise.
If you're not digging the long distance relationship thing, then tell that guy its not working for you and you need some more stability in your relationship (ie: some more one-on-one time). Be done with the long distance before you start anything with the guy you like that lives closer to home.
That is more fair to your boyfriend that lives far away and you won't have a guilty conscience to contend with either.
2006-09-10 12:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by carpenterjs16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is bad to cheat. The long distance relationship that you are in will be difficult to maintain, don't you think? You can't just say, "Oh, I still want to be with him because I like him." What will the outcome be in the end? Will you actually see, meet, and date him? On the other hand, this boy next door.. you get to see, meet, and date him all the time. Do what's best and right for you and the two guys. Don't cheat on them. Be honest and stick with that "one" guy. Not two.
2006-09-10 12:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by *a∙e∙r∙i∙t∙h* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way that I see it is...there is no ring involved so, it is not really cheating it is exercising options. The only thing is...if you are exercising options you need to set the person 900 miles away straight with that so that he can exercise his options too. Don't be selfish, let him get some play too especially if you are having side dishes...he needs to know about it. The only wrong way to cheat is when you are either engaged, married, or you are not up front with the other person. There is no reason to stay monogamous if you are "single." Test the waters, but let your partner test them too.
2006-09-10 12:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to cheat then may I suggest that since the man you love lives 900 miles away, break it off. Then it's not cheating
2006-09-10 12:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You GUESS you love him? The whole long distance thing SUCKS? That must be reassuring to him, living 900 miles away.
It sounds like you have already made up your mind. Just be sure to be honest to all parties about where you stand.
2006-09-10 12:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend and find out about having an open relationship. That way you both can see other people. It's hard doing the whole long distance thing, i know but you need to be true to your boyfriend
2006-09-10 12:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by cascade_waterfall04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your boyfriend out of town that you really like him but the distance thing is making you wonder if it is a good thing, tell him maybe your should see how you feel in a year or two and if you feel the same about each other get together then. If you are young it is better in my thinking to date someone that is "there", but it is not a good thing to be dishonest about it.
2006-09-10 12:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a long distance relationship once, but we told each other hey since we can't be with each other but still like each other lets just date other people casually and if we get a chance to be with each other then will date exclusively. I'd suggest you tell him the same thing, no point pining for someone, but you do not want to cheat on them behind their back either.
2006-09-10 12:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by Cactus Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends. Is ur boyfriend gonna come back? If so, i dont think cheating is the answer. If not, the whole long distance thing really does suck and instead of cheating, u could be honest with him... Cheating can never be good...
good luck! :-)
2006-09-10 12:11:26 · answer #11 · answered by MiSs M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋