What is the best way to get them to behave or is it too late?
2006-09-10 12:01:55 · 8 answers · asked by Amy Parker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh boy - do I ever have an opinion on this one....
I raised 2 boys by myself - no child support - one became a Marine Reservist - partial college......the other became a father at the age of 21. I have tried to help the latter but he only thinks of me as an ATM babysitter - he even called and left a message saying I was a joke as a parent and grandparent.
Everyone always says it's the parents fault, but I disagree - the youngest dropped out of school when he was 16 - state law...
Sorry - I'm venting now
Get the authorities involved if you have to - it's for their own good.
Use the merit system - good points get you privileges, bad ones get you grounded from cell phones. video games etc....
Guess I'm not the best one to answer this - sorry.
2006-09-10 12:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by MARY L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may be too late for the older ones, as they are already past the age of knowing or caring what is right and wrong. I tell all parents, you have from the time they are born to age 6 to get them right and establish some form of discipline in their lives. But you are the mother and you do have to set some boundaries. But consistency is key. If you're not consistent, it could backfire on you in a minute. Follow up with what you say to them, discipline when they are wrong, praise them when they're right. I'm assuming you're alone but you have all the power in that house. You're the mom. You can't be mom and friend too. Establish some rules and regs and if they can't get right, get on their butts. Don't be afraid to do it. This is your job. Don't screw up your kids and make them problem for the rest of society. Give them some home training so that they are responsible and functioning members of society. And good luck!!
2006-09-10 19:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too late is right. You mean you didn't bother to learn any worthwhile parenting skills or bother to seek help with the first child? And now you are asking about all 4 of them???? Poor kids and poor society with hapless hopeless parents like you. Really pathetic. Why did you have kids anyway? Pretty irresponsible. You need professional help. What the heck have you been doing for 15 years?
2006-09-10 19:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Island Queen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never to late...You have to set rules and keep them,. If they disobey then ground them or take something they like to do or play with away. Make the punishment time only a few days the first time and inform them that each time it will get longer.The main thing is you can never let them do something when u have told them no.Otherwise all your effort goes down the drain.I wish you all the luck.
2006-09-10 19:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well listen what u may have to do may seem like abuse but it's not. BUT listen when your child starts to get out of line with you and there starting to put there hand to your face it may be because you've tolerated it so long that they're like What ever. But if they ever hit you or yell at u , you gotta put yo fist up like your going to hit them to let them know you ain't playin. But if they EVER EVER hit you..O tear that A S S UP!!!!!!!!!!! Once they get one good beaten they won't do it no moe. TRUST..and once the others see that your not playin. They will start to try n be on your side.
O yeah ..and it's also good to embarass them in public so that they would behave
2006-09-10 19:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not too late. take a good look at your behavior. are you in charge? are you the parent? do you set a good example, of respect for others and respect for property?
its your responsibility to parent them, guide them, keep them safe from danger. not be their buddy.
good luck hun.
watch the dog whisperer, on the national geographic channel. a lot of the principles apply to families. i know, i raised 4 and they have always been respectful and good people.
2006-09-10 19:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by georgia2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not too late, but it's going to be a very difficult task. You have to be consistant, stop giving in and let them know when you say NO, it means NO! Good luck, I certainly don't envy the task ahead of you.
2006-09-10 19:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Too late.
Your parenting has already shaped their personalities and habits; it will take triple the effort to correct them - which, unless you drastically alter your own mindset and style of parenting, is highly unlikely. Short of family counseling, I don't see you making things any better.
2006-09-10 19:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋