Okay, this is a long story
My real dad passed when I was young and my mom remarried twice
Step dad #1 "adopted" me but treated me like garbage my whole life. Step dad #2 (who is still married to mom) treats me like I'm his own daughter...we becsme very close. So, when I got married I had stepdad #2 wear a tuxedo but I had mom walk me down the aisle
Well, stepdad #1 (the jerk) gave me $1,000 as a wedding present
I thought he was trying to mend our relationship...but I've been married for 3 months and haven't heard from him at all..only father's day when I called him. Is it okay to let him go and not speak anymore? I guess I feel kind of guilty because he gave us the money...What do you think?
Thanks
2006-09-10 11:44:59 · 21 answers · asked by GD-Fan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
money is what some people think is being a parent! he probably did that because he couldnt give you the love and support you deserve, this may be his way of loving and supporting you!!!! congradulations on getting married!!!!
just because he gave you money doesnt mean you have to talk to him and it also doesnt mean that you have to mend your relationship!! you called him on fathers day and that was enough!!!
2006-09-10 11:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think step dad felt guilty that he has not been the best dad so he gave you the money so in his mind that has made up for the bad fathering he did to you (in his eyes) I am not very close to my dad but will send him b/day cards and fathers day cards and the now and then phone call. Both me and my brother feel the same way if we did not contact him we would never hear from him. It was our step dad that was there when we needed a dad the most. just keep doing what your doing now. You have no reason to feel guilty about the money what so every as he did this to make himself feel better not you.
2006-09-10 19:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to let it go and not feel guilty about taking the money (unless you never sent a thank you card - it's just common courtesy). If he was trying to mend the relationship, he needs to try harder. If you don't want a relationship with him, then don't bother. Stepdad 2 is the one who's going to be in your life now, plus probably a father-in-law, so as far as Dad's go, you're covered.
ps. Congratulations on the wedding.
2006-09-10 18:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't ask for the money did you? It was a gift, so accept the gift and move on. If you really feel guilty you could always return the money but I don't think you should. Just be happy with your marriage and feel lucky that you do have a step dad (#2) that does love you. Forget about step dad #1, he's just not worth it. Gratz on you marriage.
2006-09-10 19:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
$1,000 doesn't make up for a life time of hurt. Love Stepdad #2 with all your heart. He's a special guy. :D
2006-09-10 18:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Sin Boldly ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money is no reason to keep in touch with him. If he wants to talk to you then he can call. Just send your standard cards like on Christmas. Spend more time with #2 and don't waste time on #1
2006-09-10 18:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step # 1 was feeling guilty and didn't want to be outdone. He will contact you if he wants to rekindle. Enjoy the money and don't give it another thought.
2006-09-10 18:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by FrogDog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if he hasn't contacted you any and you really don't want to continue the relationship...then let it go ...... don't let guilt control you... money is only money .... accept the gift and have a good life.... if he wants to contact you in the future he will if not then you really don't need to worry......... :)
2006-09-10 18:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by mercy me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The money was a gift, no reason to feel guilty, let him go, he might have given you the money as a guilt offering, let him go his way and you go yours
2006-09-10 18:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by fifi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's trying to buy a little redemtion or someone mentioned to him about his daughters wedding so he choked up the cash to look like a bigshot.
dont feel bad about cutting loose something that has no good in your life.
2006-09-10 18:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋