I met a guy that moved into my neighborhood. He is seperated & living by himself now for 3 months. I noticed that noone was ever there & he was just alone. After we met & I heard the story I was apprehensive to say the least. He warmed up to me quickly & was very nice. He seemed to be moving really fast & mentioning thoughts of the future & wanting me to meet some of his family. The x never called or come by etc so I felt it was safe enough. I ended up falling for this guy & now that the word has got around that he is seeing someone she is calling and banging on his door every hour it seems. He promised he would never take her back so I let go. There are no kids involved so there is no reason for this. I explained to him why I felt so distant in the first place because I am afraid he will take her back. Now he is telling me he is confused. He is supposed to meet with her next week to "talk" - So now what. Its easy to say move on yet hard to do. What do I say to him? im upset!
2006-09-10 11:39:34 · 12 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he fell for you because he was on the rebound. Rebound relationships are usually really intense and fast moving because the person is still not over the feeling of being in a relationship, is really needy and needs you to heal himself. It doesn't mean he didn't really feel the feelings for you, he did. But he needs some time to be by himself and heal. He may even go back to his ex. I would tell him how I feel but no matter what happens now, I would move on. If you can be a friend without feeling jealous or hurt, do so. But if you stay and try to continue a romantic relationship you will take great risk of getting hurt.
2006-09-10 11:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by shar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart sounds rapped up in this and for you letting go is not going to be easy. Getting involved with a married man is always bad news, even if he is seperated the hard part for you is that he is still married. It's always better to wait to get involved once the divorce is final, but your way past that now. You should prepare yourself for the worst just in case. It's not good that now he is confused. You want someone who knows what they want.
2006-09-10 11:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by cocob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel. Ask him why he is meeting with her to "talk" - is he thinking of taking her back? Did you find out who initiated the divorce to begin with? If she dumped him and wanted the divorce and now she wants him back, there is a VERY good chance he will go back to her, because he didn't want all this in the first place.
Talk to him and ask him what he really plans on doing, because it isn't fair to you to be caught in the middle of this and waiting around for him to figure out whats going on.
2006-09-10 11:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are living in crazy fairytale... Ask him directly what he really wants from this life. If he needs you, has to forget about everything else, other way - tell him to go to hell. Never believe in someone 100%. People are cruel... and love too. Before starting something new, be sure that other is past.
2006-09-10 11:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. He obviously still has feelings for her. Let him go and give him his space. If it is meant to be between you two,he will be back. If not you have wasted no more extra time on him. Go find someone who is both physically and emotionally available.
2006-09-10 11:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Wired 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes got baggage give him space and see what happens and if nothing then cut your ties and move on. going thru a divorce is hard and he needs time. its hard to move on but that might be for the best. just wait and see. lol.
2006-09-10 11:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by smiley283 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually means he's interested and may want to date. Most of the time he's thinking "dirty" thoughts and wants to do stuff..... (Awkward) He either thinks you are very attractive or very non attractive but whatever the case he's seem you and noticed you.
2016-03-27 05:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and now dont wait he has issues.
2006-09-10 11:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him a burger,give him head, and tell him your in love with him,if you can do all that with in tweny minute,theres no man who could resist
2006-09-10 11:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by big_e_40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get involved with him until he finally divorced, you might end up throwing yourself into a fire
2006-09-10 11:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by sweettooth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋