I'm 28, my husband is 38. We live a very active and carefree life. I am not overly fond of children, but adore my two dogs. My husband is wonderful with kids. He is starting to think it may be too late in life to start a family. I love my life style at this time, but am worrried I will regret not having children in the future.
2006-09-10 11:33:51 · 18 answers · asked by heidi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You will keep on putting it off as long as you can so just jump into it and don't think twice. Call it "stop trying not to have babies" . Thats what we did and its so fun! No pressure. But then again 6 months later we found out there is a problem and I have to take these meds. I just turned 25! So it was a good thing that we did that when we did. Hopefully soon we will get preg!
2006-09-10 11:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every woman wants to be a mother, despite what society thinks she must do. If you enjoy the carefree childless life, and your husband is ready to concede that maybe it's too late, then why change your lifestyle now? Having children is a lifelong comittment, and unless you're really prepared to make all the sacrifices that having children involves, don't do it. And if people ask you when you're going to have a family, just say, "Why do you ask?" It's really none of their business.
Are there other children in your family, such as nieces and nephews? If so, you can be a favorite aunt, and that way you will still have kids in your life, but not on a day-to-day basis. And in the future, they can still be an essential part of your life. I was always very close to my aunts.
So really, this decision is up to you and your husband. I've just given you some pros and cons. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-10 11:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you have a child, you'll feel differently. You will think of that child as a piece of your own body. You'll feel more for the child than your husband or parents. Not having one, you have no idea what it is like so you really aren't in a position to know if you want one or not, so you'll just have to guess.
Spending time with other people's children is not the same. Just because you're not fond other other people's children, does not mean you'll feel that way about your own. Everyone has a natural instinct to care for their children (except a few selfish a__holes).
If you think you want to have one, have one as soon as possible (as long as your finances are OK) because think about what age you'll be when the child is out of the house? You're 28 now. If he's 20 when he leaves, you'll be 48 when you have your house back. Would you rather wait 10 years and have that be 58?
2006-09-10 11:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by BiyGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness! You're only 28! Plenty of time to consider the kid thing. You've got a good 10 years before the decision becomes critical. Enjoy yourself for a while.
You may want to compromise a bit & start thinking about it in about 5 years since hubby is 10 years older. At any rate, children will change your life drastically. If you're not ready to change your lifestyle yet, don't. You've got lots of time.
2006-09-10 13:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by oh kate! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably regret not having at least one, in the future. You are only 28, not to late to carry a baby. Most couples wait longer these days. Go for it, and I wish you both the best.
2006-09-10 11:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not overly fond of children, by all means - DON'T HAVE KIDS.... Just know when you have children, they become the 100% focus of your life. Maybe your husband could become a big brother....
2006-09-10 11:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by PoolRoomPaintings.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will regret having children of you own. When you get older, you would like to see your child all grown up and being successful. And all their accomplishments will make you so proud. I say its not too late. Your only 28 y.o.... go for it and you'll see how wonderful it is to have a child of you own....
Best of luck
2006-09-10 11:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by rache0116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously think you both should discuss having children maybe @ least one child. There is nothing more beautiful in a relationship then the birth of a child. I wish you a life of joy and happiness. The clock is ticking so take it seriously. :-)
2006-09-10 11:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should at least have 1 child maybe two so the first child won't be lonely playing with imaginary friends.Wouldn't you want some part of you to still live on when you are long gone. 2nd- do you have the financial means of taking care of a baby
2006-09-10 11:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by curious81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to a pychologist and get evaluated to see if you would make a good parent or not. Or rely on the notion that most girls grow up wanting to be a mom and have baby .. like me it was a dream to get married and have 4 kids but unforatutly maybe that isn't waht God has in store. leave it to in God's hands. ( if you believe that is.) but good luck talk about it with your hubby don't leave him out of it. it's his discison too. maybe he wants to have a child with you . sometimes people say that they don't want a kid. but once they do the wouldn't trade it for anything
:D
2006-09-10 11:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋