my best friend use to have feelings for my bf.. like b4 i started dating him and she tells me she wants to be with him.. but now that im with him and she is with someone else... she always wants to hang around with my bf.. and it gets me really pissed.. should i be worried? i mean even her bf tells me that she and my bf touches and hugs each other.. it just scares me... idk wat i'm to do...
2006-09-10 11:33:45 · 18 answers · asked by (<' . '<)MoOomOOoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not to be descrimative, but, what is your age??? If you are over 30 then address the issue in an adult like mannor with her. She is respected in that she is honest with you about her feelings. That is a good friend. My best friend married my husband!!!! ugh, took me years to get over that! Consider the relationship with your BF, is he marriage material?? Do you trust him?? If you are still in school and or are not planning the rest of your life with him, then, no worries about what he does,,,but keep your friends close. And one last thing, We cannot control what other's do, however we can control what we do, who we are, and what we want. Good luck!! And best wishes.
2006-09-10 11:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she liked him before it could very well be that she never got over him. The fact that she always wants to hang around him/touch him are indicating that she might still have feelings for him, whether she has a bf or not.
What you can do is talk to your bf about it and tell him you aren't comfortable with them together alone or ask him why they are always touching/hugging. You should also talk to your friend about how you feel - but do it gently because she will probably get very defensive if you start accusing her.
2006-09-10 11:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, it's funny that you've asked this question because in the past I've had the same problem, so yes I do think you should be worried. But before you get too upset with her, check with him first, i know that she may be making the moves on him, but if he really wants to be with you then he'll keep that in mind before doing anything stupid.
Moody
2006-09-10 11:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Moody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, I would tell your bf that she likes him and ask your best friend if she likes him, maybe she just thinks your bfs cool.Maybe the hugs are just a sign of friendship, me and my best guy friend hug each other.
2006-09-10 11:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by jmgirl820 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would r u kinding shes just waiting for u 2 to break up so she can pick up the pieces you really really need to watch her or else ur gonna get your heart broken and ur freinds bf is just so she can have a bf nothing serious
2006-09-10 11:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by faded_memories_of_temptation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not like it at all... my best friend started dating someone that i met first...but i did not want to date because he was from a different state until he moved here.....but she started talking to him and she loves him....i do not even go around when they are together...we talk about him when he is not there...but i myself do not think that a real friend would act that way to your boyfriend...and you can not trust even bestfriends anymore...so i would not like what she is doing at all...tell her keep her hands off your boyfriend and i would try to keep your boyfriend to yourself and not have her anywhere around...i hope you understand what i am saying to you.....and i think you have every right to be pissed...i like doing things with my girlfriend to but not since jack and i did see each other once...i will not do that to my friend...
2006-09-10 11:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is pretty much telling you that she still has feelings for him. I think you should lay it all out on the table. Let her know that it makes you feel uncomfortable and if she continues to do it, lose her as a friend!
2006-09-10 11:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Queen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it...if shes ur best friend she should understand. If I were her bf I would do the same thing too.
2006-09-10 11:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should start talikng with her crearly! and tell her or him u don´t like her to be around your bf but if u think your bf does likes her! then thats is a problem! you just have to be opening the eyes! and see if your bf does like her!
2006-09-10 11:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to your friend and your boyfriend and let them know how u feel. if she don't back off. shes not your friend. if your bf don't understand then he is not worth the pot to piss in. good luck.
2006-09-10 11:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋