i lived with my older cousins and aunts now. i have tried to do what they told me to do. but they have never satisfied. sometimes they tease me a lot till i feel very guilty like i have made a very big mistakes. my aunts always compare me with my elder cousin(she is a very pretty girl). i feel so....i hate her... but i can't live without them, i come from Asia and i am 18 years old now, female... please help me... i cry almost everyday not knowing what to do... cause my parents aren't here...
2006-09-10 11:30:59 · 8 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Move out and leave behind a copy of Cinderella!
Are you able to go to college? If so, this could be your time to flourish. Educate yourself and make friends outside of your family's influence.
If for some reason you cannot go to college, there are lots of positions you could accept from live-in nanny, to joining the job corps. http://www.dol.gov/dol/topic/training/jobcorps.htm
Probably you're in the States away from your parents for an opportunity you might not have had in Asia. Don't let your unsupportive relatives take away your hope.
Surely you miss your parents, if you are not receiving the support you need as a young adult from your relatives you are living with currently, but can't exactly move out on your own yet, seek out a community whether in your locale or online that you can identify with. Friends are the family we choose for ourselves.
One last thing, until you can improve your situation, keep looking for things to be thankful for now. It will give you hope.
2006-09-10 11:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by sendmedaisies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are not alone.
But I think there are many options for you. You are 18. You can go to college and get out of their house. That would b great not only for your education, but will give you and your family time apart. When you visit from college, they will have less to gripe about because they will be proud of you for going to college and they will have missed you while you were gone.
Another way is get a job to save up money to find your own place. Either way you are taking on your own responsibilities and won't be so worried about what they are thinking or saying about you.
Remember that they still love you as family and sometimes families don't think before they speak and don't even realize how they are hurting you. Maybe talking to them about it might help too.
Good luck and Blessed be.
2006-09-10 18:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be strong, understand that words are just words and they don't know what's in your heart. they can say whatever they want, but they can't tell you who you are. it's up to you to make something of yourself, get yourself educated, get out in the world and away from needing them. if you're from asia, see if you can find a comfortable job as a translator (look online), they usually pay pretty well. save up some money, get your own place, go to college, live your own life. you can call and check on them every once in a while if you care for them, and you'll have shown them that you can take care of yourself. earn your freedom. and go be free.
2006-09-10 18:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Zu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should tell them what u don´t like! and if not you should be looking for a place to live not being with them i know whats being compared and to live with people like that so take my advice and tell them what you really feel! i hope it works! good luck!
2006-09-10 18:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18---legal age.
Make your own decision, have a job, be financially independent
2006-09-10 18:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Susanne R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get out of school get a job and move out on your own dont cry be strong talk to god he will hear you ....
2006-09-10 18:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by kmami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at other peoples problems on here,then you will realise you dont have one.
2006-09-10 18:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on
2006-09-10 18:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋