have been friends with this guy for 2 years but he has always had a gf. They are now broken up and I saw him at a party last weekend. We flirted all evening and at the end of the night we did a little fooling around. He wanted to take things further but I didn't (not yet anyway). I told him it wasn't a good night for that and he got the hint but asked if it had been a good night would I have wanted to. I didn't expect this question and paused...pretty long. He said "never mind you don't have to answer that". I then told him no I wouldn't have done anything more that night but it wasn't him...I just didn't want to move so fast. We kissed a little more and then I went home. I called him later in the week to tell him I had a good time and for him to feel free to call if he wants to hang out. He hasn't called me back yet. So should I call again and specifically ask him out (because maybe I hurt his pride with my big pause) or is he just not interested and doesn't want to go out with me?
2006-09-10 11:22:56 · 13 answers · asked by jenny s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if he's just gotten off a 2 yr sprint w/ his last gf hes probly not looking for somthing too intimate, or at least not somthing slow-moving right now anyway, hence the whole rebound thing, hes probly looking for a quick way up to the level he was at w/ his last gf but without all the time spent really getting to know somebody, so if you want to have a REAL relationship w/ this guy and not just a cheap fling you can try to push him into taking it slow (which by the sounds of it may not work right now) or you can let him go have a quick fling (usually its someone whos completly wrong for you butis just convineant) and then you can help pick up the pieces when it falls apart and he relizes he wants somthing more substantial (ie somthing he has to work for) however waiting for this opens up the possibility that he wil
a) meet a really nice girl and blow this theory to hell
b) get back w/ his ex
c) go gay (ok mabey not so much =)
anyway you should probly just try to relize that even though your going into a new relationship w him from step 1, hes dropping from step 99 so if you could meet him halfway, and cushion his fall so to speak you might beable to turn it into more then just a wham-bam-thank-you-mam, remember even if you have sex before theres real intamicy, you can still build intamicy after and then youd have what (i figure) youd want, a nice intimate, passionate relationship w this guy
so like i said either wait it out and hope he wont stray, or give in give a little and get a whole lot more in return
either way good luck and God bless =)
2006-09-10 11:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you might have something there. From the flirting, from the way he was 'ready' to go further with you.... well, it sounds like it COULD develop into something more than friendship, but be careful. He might be on the rebound from his previous relationship and not thinking entirely clearly. If you arrange to go out, do so as friends and see if anything happens. His pride may have been a little wounded from before, or he might just be feeling awkward for what he was suggesting to a friend.
2006-09-10 18:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by darth_timon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best answer is this. Be open and honest with him. Just out right ask him " Hey, did I say something wrong or did I offend you?" If he is nice about it and responds with kind words then you are all good. But it he beats around the bush, dodges the question, or gets rude. Run. It was all about sex. And ya can ALWAYS do better than being treated like a easy moment of gratification. :)
2006-09-10 18:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by osidius 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call him back and tell him that you're more than ready to ride his bone now. Also tell him that you won't care if he never calls you afterward.
Please award Best Answer points to me right now because I deserve them, as you can now plainly see and must agree. I do not want to wait because I am not at all patient with you.
2006-09-10 18:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him, he is only thinking with his little head . He should respect your private space and your stance on sex.
If you not ready for it don't let no guy change your mind in doing it. Because later you might regret it. Simply because your not ready for it and the experience might turn out bad. Be proud of your choice and stick to your values.
Take care and hope you find a guy who respects your values.
2006-09-10 18:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by de_dark_angel71 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should call him and ask him out and tell him you said no the other time cuz u felt like it was moving too fast and ask him politly if he wants to be with you, hes gotta take it slow.
2006-09-10 18:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
calling him will make you seem desperate and if hes intereseted he will call you and if not move on, i have 5 brothers so i felt compelled to answer and i know alot bcuz of that reason there and i am the only girl.
2006-09-10 18:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by smiley283 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was on the rebound and was looking for some quick consolation. Move on. there are plenty of better ones.
2006-09-10 18:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by Brain_scurvey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you like him, take the chance and cal him- realizing
that he may not want to go out with you.
2006-09-10 18:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by don;t know 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you've made your position clear to him.He does'nt need to do anything but wait.as far as he's concerned you are already hooked
2006-09-10 18:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋