We had a heated argument & he slapped me in public! I felt humiliated but he was really sorry begging me to forgive him. I love him but I felt the trauma of what he has done. I am thinking of dumping him but I do love him still... what will I do?
2006-09-10 11:22:27 · 81 answers · asked by strawberry_sundae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow - First of all it takes two to argue just as it does to tango. Having said that to physically abuse you is not on in any circumstances - private or public.
You say that you still love him - does he love you? Is his remorse genuine?
Would suggest that you both sit down at an appropriate time where you will not be disturbed. Discuss things together.
Do you forgive him? Well, if you truly do feel that there is a future for you both together, and you wish to give him a second chance then set some ground rules, ensuring that he is 100% certain that should he ever, ever, deliberately slap or physical abuse you in any way then that will be the end of your relationship.
If you do decide to stay together then you must not keep bringing the issue up. It will do no good and must be put behind you. It may well help to strengthen your love for one another and bring you closer together.
Whatever you decide wish you all the best. God Bless.
2006-09-10 11:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the argument.
I have hit my partner once ages ago but the reasons where extreme. We have been together for about 5 years and it's the only time. I don't regret it as it was the only way I was able to convey how much she had hurt me and we do agree it wasn't out of place.
I don't make a habit of it and never will, but there are times when the extreme is the only way forward. Just as long as it doesn't become a habit.
Do you think the argument could have been resolved any other way? Do you think he might do it again? He should at least be given a 2nd chance but no more.
2006-09-10 11:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by earthangel_ghost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a form of abuse. As everyone else is saying, if he does it once, in public or not, he will most likely do it again. And abuse doesn't stop there. Your love for him will not stop him from hitting you again the next time he gets mad. For your own safety's sake, get away from him now! Don't let this turn into a repeat thing. Women go through this all the time, unfortunately, and it is never right. There are many places and people you can turn to.
Peace and Good luck.
2006-09-10 11:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him let him know how you felt about the slap sure couples are going to argue and fight and you say that he was sorry and he begged for you forgiveness and you are going to end of many years (I don't know how long you and him have been together) of a relationship over one slap," but if it has been more than once then i say dump him."
2006-09-10 11:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by doubleg2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slapping you in public. Did you do something bad ? He still had no right to slap you. That is a sign that he did not respect you to humiliate you in public. You will never be able to forget that one. Even if your together for 50 years . I guess it is up to you. Hopefully, he will never do that again. Tell him to keep his hands at home. It is a bad sign tho., especially if your not married and then he may not ever do it again.
2006-09-10 11:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What worries me most is actually not his action--but why you are wondering what to do.
Physical abuse reflects a lack of self-control. Yes, he probably is really sorry, but sorry doesn't create self-control. If he did that in public, just think how he'll let loose when your next argument is in private. He'll be sorry for that one, too.
You have a lot of work to do on your own self-confidence. Consider counseling to examine why you would consider for a moment staying with an abusive man.
2006-09-10 11:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship its never right to lift your hands to a partner no matter who does it if you are having an argument and you lash out whatever argument you were trying to make is dead the minute you lift your hand dump him I know its harsh but you will look back and see it was the right thing to do!.
2006-09-10 22:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he did this in public is not the issue. The issue is why you would allow a man to assault at all and then have the nerve to ask if you should dump him. I know that love is blind but it shouldn't be dumb too.
2006-09-10 11:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He slapped you? girl it doesnt matter how much you love him - the second a guy raises his hand to you - GET OUT - sure he'll be crawling apologising and asskissing, but dont take it. No man has the right to hit a woman, regardless of how heated an argument gets.
2006-09-10 21:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he slapped you ANYWHERE you get rid of that pitiful loser immediately! People will treat you as you allow yourself to be treated, and by not dumping him you REALLY lowered the bar for yourself. Oh, and by the way, the simple fact that you have stayed with him after such abuse will only insure that he will do it again.
2006-09-10 11:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋