The reason I'm insecure doesn't lie within the fact I don't trust my girlfriend, but within the fact that I'm afraid she's just too good for me. I get so paranoid and worry that she's annoyed with me or fed up. I mis-read everything she says and I normally just make things worse by asking her constantly, "Are you OK with me?"
Lately, I'm not being as bad, but I still do it even know I've told myself not too. She won't break-up with me because of it, but I know things could be better if I would just stop - I just need to know how to feel at ease and stop worrying. I worry all-day long, before I go sleep and when I wake-up.
I'm in love with her so much, and I don't ever want us to be apart, but I know this can't go on (with me being so insecure). I'll say again, this isn't a trust issue - I know she'd never betray or cheat 100%... and that's why I don't know where these feelings are coming from.
She's my best friend and I adore her. I want to feel happier and stop worrying.
2006-09-10 10:55:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let me tell you something, ok? if she ever gets annoyed it won't be because of your normal flaws..but because of the fact that you won't trust that you deserve her. i had a boyfriend like you and it broke my heart to see him so insecure ...he thought he didnt deserve me. but it's not true. she chose you for a reason. if you guys ever do break it off...dont let that be the reason...enjoy your time with her. not only make her feel special. but think about yourself too. =)
2006-09-10 11:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to start believing in yourself. There are a gazillion factors as to what makes us insecure..Were you bullied....did your parents praise you enough etc? All of us are insecure to a certain level but its how we break though that. List all the great things you like about yourself and all the things you dont and work on them. Also, does she give you any reason to feel this way or mistrust her? If shes a really loving attentive gf then you will push her away bigtime. Try to relax and give her space, shes not gonna leave you if she knows you are cool and chilled but the opposite will make her run out the door. You dont state your age but trust comes with time and experience. Try not to care so much and laugh a bit more...you are great ok!
2016-03-27 05:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pointed out your problem by saying "Im afraid she's just too good for me." Why do you think that? Isn't it because you know yourself too well and that's why you're too critical of youself. Believe me if you know her deep dark secret you'll probably don't feel the same. If it's true that you think she's too good for you then why is she with you? She would've left you by now if she thought that. So she obviously thinks you are at least equal to her or better than her. She may never tell you that but I'm pretty sure that's why she's with you. So work on your confidence and realize that you're better than you think. Ok?
2006-09-10 11:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set her down and tell her how you feel. Tell her what makes you tick and why you are being the way you are. That is the main thing with keeping a woman. Let her in. Stop worrying over nothing. If you don't it will turn in to something that will push her away.
2006-09-10 11:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing with my wife( I have been with her since I was 15 and I am 26 now) what she told me...was shut up and be a man!!! Not meaning that i am less than a man...what she meant was shut up and throw her down and bang the hell out of her.....and now we are both happy...it worked for me...no really ...she just might not be the type to show alot of affection..like letting you know all the time that she loves you and stuff...that doesn't mean she doesn't ...she sounds like my wife though...tell her you just like a lil reassurance every now and then
2006-09-10 10:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone who is perfect? Even if there was, I wouldn't like them too well. You need to get over yourself and focus on her. Get to know her so well and you'll find out that she isn't so perfect as well.
2006-09-10 11:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by inluvwshana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel,its like"did i say the right thing,is he gunna be mad at me''it sucks
and uh,if theres one way to deal with it its by putting a ribber band on your hand and flicking at yourself everytime you say that,works for me,with everything
2006-09-10 13:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should break up...i acually thought about ur problem...and i dont see how u can trust her when u think about thouse things- and u know that u cant just STOP thinking about it, becuz then you'll ALWAYS be wondering........go out w/ someone that u can talk to about ..well, anything( within reason)
2006-09-10 11:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely<3 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
develop self confidence.
2006-09-10 10:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look...if u love her, so be with her, don't be so insecure about anyhing.
2006-09-10 11:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by kams2999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋